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  • #201213
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sierra:

    Welcome back.

    I think that you are confused because the situation is confusing. Shoe’s behavior is confusing, so is the friend’s behavior, the one who has been encouraging the relationship that hasn’t yet started.

    Why is Shoe expressing an interest in you to other people, why not to you directly. What is the motivation of the friend encouraging the relationship that didn’t yet materialize?

    These two questions you can ask: ask Shoe the first and the friend, the second question. Or wait for Shoe to express an interest in you directly and clearly. No need to be guessing and looking for signs that way.

    Here is a possibility: maybe Shoe is a troubled young man and the friend is trying to… help him out somehow.

    anita

    #201219
    Sierra
    Participant

    Hello again:)

     

    I do believe that Shoe is inexperienced. He just turned 18, and he is doing the things he wanted to do.

    From what people tell me, they think that maybe he isn’t the best with girls and maybe his friend is trying to help him.

    Im honestly kind of nervous for our session Wednesday. I don’t know if it’ll be awkward or actually really great. Do I show him I’m interested or will he think I’m weird?

    I do just wanna wait for him to make a move. It may be a while, but I’m honestly not ready for a resl relationship. I would like to be friends with him first, we hang out occasionally, and maybe if things go further they do. But I actually want to aim for friendship. I hope he does too!

    #201221
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sierra:

    As you worry about him thinking you are weird, he may be worrying about you thinking he is weird.

    I agree it is best to be friends with him first. That way you will have the opportunity to get to know him, to learn what he thinks and feels about himself and about you, over time.

    anita

    #201237
    Sierra
    Participant

    Thank you for the advice, and for understanding my rant. I needed to clear everything out because I’ve been keeping it in, and I feel much better now.

     

    Thank you,

    sierra:)

     

    #201299
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sierra:

    You are welcome. Feeling much better is a good thing. Post again anytime.

    anita

    #202305
    Sierra
    Participant

    Hey again!

     

    So Shoe and I have spent some time together this  week.

    In class, my friend kept telling me “Sierra, he keeps staring up here, I’m pretty sure he’s staring at you.” And even other people in my group project said he was looking up here. At some point he even came and started watching my team perform and I felt him staring at me.

    My friend just said that “everytime you walk in or out of the room he looks at you right away. He’s obviously interested.”

    The day before, I walked by him and his friends in the  hall and his friend said to me “Hey, I know you!” I said “haha hey I know you too.” Shoe then asked me “so where do we meet up tomorrow for the photoshoot?” His friend then said “meet up against the lockers so you guys can make out.” I responded “you can meet me in English class.” And his friend started to tease and say “ouuuu look! Shoe is talking to a cute girl. Shoe look at you talking to a cute girl.”

    His friend always teases him about me! I read that it’s a sign that Shoe could possibly like me. I just feel like he’s a natural flirt, just like a super suave Latino that charms a lot of girls so I don’t know, maybe he might like me a little more as things just point me to think that.

    We had a photoshoot and we spent like a full 3 hours together. We were getting to know one another so well that time went by really quickly (unless it did just for me). He asked me a lot of personal questions and I feel like that’s a very big sign. He asked things like “so tell me all about you” or  “tell me some stories we’ve got a lot of time” or “so what are you like.” He asked me so many questions I began re-evaluating myself at times ?.

    He mentioned this girl that we both know. He asked “Hey, you know this girl right?” I said “yes, we sit next to one another in Spanish class!” And he nodded as if he already knew that me and her sat next to each other. To me it seemed like he talked to her about me.

    He even stood up for me when this teacher was being rude to me. I don’t know if it was a “I’m truijg to show off my manliness” or it was a genuine act of being nice and helping me out. During the shoot he’d act kinda sexy, I wasn’t sure if it was just for the photos or he was trying to show off in front of me.

    He just did little things that sometimes I wonder. He keeps asking me about his hair and if I think a certain hairstyle would look good. He may just be self obsessed?

    Also at the end of our day together, he came in and gave me a hug when I really was not expecting him too because I didn’t think he’d want to.

    My friend told me she saw him talking to this other girl later that day (the girl he talked to at the bar that I mentioned in my other post). She said it looked super friendly and nothing flirty as he wasn’t sitting next to her directly but I still felt jealous. I also remembered that he’s a single man and if he wants to talk to others of course he can but I guess it still sucks:’)

    Before his show, he noticed me walking and he looked away from me. It was in a way where I knew he noticed me but I think he was a too shy to make eye contact. Or maybe I’m just dreaming who knows.

    Also, after his show yesterday, he came up to me and thanked me for coming and we both hugged again!

    I again need to get things off my chest as it helps my mind clear. But now I don’t know what to do. I feel like the photoshoot was my last chance to really talk to him. My friends told me that they feel that we’re probably gonna talk again! I really hope he wants to try and keep me around. I wanna make a first move but I’m afraid he might be weirded out as he seems the type to be extremely friendly with everyone. He’s supposed to collect the pictures I took of him from me but I’m not sure if I should text him or wait so he texts me.

    There’s also many MANY coincidences that I’m just super taken back by. I’m trying not to let those get to me as they could just be happy coincidences and nothing more, but I keep them in mind.

    Do I just let things be or maybe try to communicate or send signals in some way.

     

    Thank you!

    Sierra

    #202331
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Sierra:

    You asked: “Do I just let things be or maybe try to communicate or send signals in some way”-

    my answer: communicate clearly, with words. Ask him: are you interested in a relationship? are you interested in a relationship with me?

    Any one of these questions is clear enough, direct and clear. I don’t like sending signals or looking for signals. Why bother with signals if we have words available?

    anita

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