I’ve posted something very similar about my current situation a few months back but some things have been updated. I will give the background story for those that have not seen my original post.

I met this 24 year old guy through a dating app while I was up at school (my college was about 2 1/2 hours away from home). He lived about 30-40 minutes away from my school, which made meeting each other very convenient. Before we met though, we got to know each other briefly through texting and occasional phone calls. It took a few weeks before I drove up to see him, and when we did, we clicked instantly. The second time I drove up to see him again, and we had sex. At this point I began to grow some emotional attachment towards him. I realized things were being rushed very fast, but I felt blinded by the emotions I was starting to feel for him. I ended up driving up to see him 2-3 more times after that, repeating our routine of having sex, cuddling, etc. He did take me out to dinner a few times and we held hands in public, and he held doors open for me; he was a gentleman and acted appropriately out in public so he wasn’t necessarily all about sex every time I saw him.

I started feeling extreme anxiety about our situation though because I was transferring to a school back home and it would be about a 3 hour car ride to see each other. I asked if he was willing to see me over the summer, and he said yes, but was not looking for anything serious. I had to end things because I was hurt and obviously was unaware that what we wanted were completely different.

We stopped talking for about a month, even though we would like statuses and pictures on Facebook, etc. He would occasionally text me and ask me how I was doing and told me that he was thinking about me. Just recently we started talking again. I drove up the 5th time again to see him (now being a 3 hour drive), and spent 3 nights with him for the 4th of July. Everything felt perfect. When we’re with each other we feel extremely close and comfortable. Sometimes I feel like when I want to talk about deep matters, he shys away a little as though he is uncomfortable talking about our situation. The same has applied through text too. Whenever I want to approach him about what we should do with the distance, he simply says “I don’t know what to do :(“. He’s very indifferent about it and it makes me frustrated.

I brought it up to him recently through text and he said he does not know what to do, the distance is so far but he likes me a lot. I feel like I’ve been so vulnerable opening myself up to him and telling him how much I care about him. I make it known that I want to see where things could lead between us because I am very much interested in him. Ever since that conversation I haven’t heard from him in about 3 days. I’m beginning to feel he doesn’t want to commit. Not only that, but I feel like he might be interested in other girls. I always see him liking other girls pictures, commenting on how fabulous or how beautiful they are.

Don’t get me wrong, he is a great guy and I know he has a good heart…I just think he might be leading me on and confused about me. And it hurts. So I don’t know how to let him go. I don’t know how to be strong enough about it because I have hope that things could turn around. But maybe I’m being foolish? Maybe I’m holding onto someone who just doesn’t want to be with me. I gave him the option of whether he wanted to let things go or not, and he couldn’t give me a clear answer. I need help on how to handle this situation. I’ve been crying about it because I think I’ve let myself become too emotionally attached to him.

• This topic was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Kelsi.