I want to give you a hug. I know this is hard. I’ve been there myself. The best answer I can give, which is also the hardest to be receptive to, is to let time run it’s course. Keep yourself busy. Read, travel (if possible), discover new sides to yourself. Your break-up is still fresh that’s why it hurts so much.

Having said that, I know that some people in life – even if they aren’t good for us at the end of the day (and this guy wasn’t good for you – take hold and it’s very, very difficult to shake them. Being told to “discover yourself” just seems insulting with what you are feeling inside. I know when I was in this state, I stalked his social media and even drove by his neighbourhood just praying for an encounter so that he would finally see that I am the person he should be with. I was a mess with false hope.

But it never happened for me.

Chances are slim it will happen to you.

Treat this as a learning experience. Never give too much of yourself to someone who gives so little in return. Take this opportunity to love yourself so much that you will never allow someone to treat you like this again.

I’m responding to simply let you know that you are not the only one going through this. I managed to cut contact completely with my ex for 3 years. I finally said, I am over him. Until he called about 3 months ago and I answered. Every it of pain and feelings for him came back and it feels like a complete relapse. Best part is, I think I am just lonely and he is a familiar feeling that I am latching onto. I know it’s bad for me, but it’s comfortable and I do it anyway. Working very hard at breaking the cycle, but just know you are def not the only person feeling this way. My heart aches for you as well.