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  • July 9, 2016 at 1:25 am #109205
    Hang Do
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    Hi everyone,
    I am Hang. I am new here. This morning i knew about Tiny Buddha accidentally and i was so happy like finding a place to confide my thoughts, my feelings and to ask for advice.
    My problem is i feel like i am stuck with my life. i am 24 and have one year of being unemployed. i graduated in June last year, then i worked as a sales rep then i quit it after 2 months and a half. A couple of months passed me by and i still have no idea what to do. i had applied for many positions: receptionist, some kind of officer positions…and still did not figure out what i do want to do.Then a Korean guy contacted me on Wechat asking me for teaching him English and Vietnamese also ( I am Vietnamese), after the first lesson, i screamed from inside of me: this is what i am looking for. Then i actively seek for more students on that app and found two more ones to teach Vietnamese but they are businessmen and were absent for so many classes; that mean my income lost. After that i was thinking about applying for teaching English but because i have no Tesol or Ielts certificates and i also cannot afford to take these courses so the opportunities for being chosen were so low. Then i continued apply for school of teaching Vietnamese for foreigners, i was chosen but the thing was they offered me a low salary. So i refused it. Everyday to me is hopelessness, i keep surfing the internet to seek for jobs, and emailig and waiting for respones. Sometimes i wonder if i am chosen, will i quit it so early?
    I am stuck with myself. I do not expect a 9-5 job, i want to be free and strong financially. I have that idea during one year. Sometimes i feel i am crazy with that thought. But no, i accidentally knew a very famous travel blogger, he inspires me so much and i know i am not crazy. I emailed him, read his guide to do blog, but the problem is i have no expertise, no experience, no money, nothing; i cannot follow my dream. i feel i am a looser; i have no passion. Even right now, i want to blog but have no idea what to blog about.
    Everyday, i search for many sites, many advice from successful people to find a way. Some say A, some say B, and some make me realize: should not do blog if you just want to be like someone. I have unsteady standpoint. I am not passionate. It would be a liar, if i say i am not envy of those who are passionate to chasing their dreams.
    What i have to do now? i even cannot understand myself and lose direction. i am 24 now and i do not want to waste my youth anymore.
    Can anyone give me your advice or opinions and experiences?
    Many thanks

    July 9, 2016 at 4:38 am #109218
    Keri
    Participant

    Good Morning Hang, from Wisconsin!

    Leo Gura got me out of my head! I love his content! I have also learned there is a time to let go of “trying to figure it out” and JUST DO! Life can only be planned out so much. By “doing” and being active is the only way (that I found) to know what will work and will not. You will find your way. I am sure of that! Why? Because you are reaching out… exploring… learning…! Don’t pigeon hole yourself into what others do or say or how they live their life. It’s ok to not have a plan. The more I over thought and let my limiting beliefs take hold the longer I sat THINKING. Time kills all “deals”. Take what your learning and start applying. Who cares what you blog. Shit… blog exactly about what you wrote above! People relate to this stuff! Here is Leo’s link if your interested. I know it’s just more “stuff” in your toolbox but tools are good;)
    https://www.actualized.org/articles/

    Sincerely,
    Keri

    July 9, 2016 at 7:31 am #109224
    Anonymous
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    Dear Hang:

    You wrote: “Then i continued apply for school of teaching Vietnamese for foreigners, i was chosen but the thing was they offered me a low salary. So i refused it.” The low salary you were offered, isn’t it higher than your current salary, which is none? Why did you refuse it when it was a higher salary than your current salary and you very much enjoyed teaching Vietnamese a short time ago?

    anita

    July 11, 2016 at 12:54 am #109369
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Dear Keri,

    Thank you for reading my confidence. I will think about what you advised me for sure. At least now i do not think about blogging much. i should be myself. And yes, i am still continuing applying.
    Have a nice day Keri!

    Hang

    July 11, 2016 at 1:06 am #109371
    Hang Do
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    Dear Anita,

    About the thing i refused their offer was because beside teaching at school, i also need to teach at students’places. Of course the school will give me small trip fee like for petrol but i felt my energy should be deserved a bit more. I considered that wage per each lesson they offered me was low because other school offered me with the same wage while i just need to teach at schools, no where else (the reason i declined this school was the school is located in suburban, very far from my place, i just figured out when attending the interview)

    July 11, 2016 at 8:00 am #109386
    Anonymous
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    Dear hangdo:

    I see. And I suppose there was no way to negotiate a higher pay to compensate you for the traveling…

    Back to your original post, you wrote: “Then a Korean guy contacted me on Wechat asking me for teaching him English and Vietnamese also ( I am Vietnamese), after the first lesson, i screamed from inside of me: this is what i am looking for.”

    This is meaningful to me, meaningful in understanding you- when something “screamed from inside of (you)”- that means a whole lot. I sure hope you find a way to make that motivation lead you to an opportunity to teach Vietnamese or something else.

    anita

    July 11, 2016 at 8:19 am #109389
    Hang Do
    Participant

    Thank you so much Anita. I hope i am lucky enough to make money from the job i like. There is still a fact that sometimes people have to earn money from the jobs they do not like but they have to go with it for living and some reason else. anyway, i believe i can do it.

    July 11, 2016 at 9:13 am #109392
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Hang:

    You are welcome. As you consider a job just so to pay the bills, don’t forget about what you feel passionate about. The opportunity to make a living doing that may not be present, but honor what makes you feel passionate; honor your motivations, what you value and what energizes you- this honoring will come handy for you no matter what it is that you do for a living and otherwise.

    anita

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