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    Anonymous
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    Dear sophie:

    I think you should end your relationship with this guy as soon as possible, so it is over and done with. No, not all men are violent or aggressive when under stress. Many women and men are aggressive when stressed, but not all. You just happened to be involved in two aggressive men in a row.

    Somewhere along the way, with this guy, you started doubting yourself. Maybe it is because you feel your time is running out, being in your mid thirties and you are afraid you will not meet any nice guy, so you are trying to “make” this guy into a nice guy by re-thinking and doubting yourself. Maybe you are confused by him apologizing to you when he does. I don’t know why, but you are doubting your own evaluation (which you didn’t do with ex husband, did you?) but your self doubt is unfounded.

    I think your reasoning is intact. You wrote that you are glad you didn’t have children with your ex husband; well, you don’t want children with this one, do you? Can you imagine little ones running around cursing, using the F and B and other words, threatening retroactively to throw people off cliffs?

    Your reasoning is intact; your self doubt is unfounded. End it with him and make sure as you START getting to know the new man in your life that he will be calm, mature, and kind. Before you go on a hike anywhere near a cliff!

    anita

    #88558
    Seaisland
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    I really hope you followed Anita’s advice and have ended this. I have also been in relationships like this–quit waiting for the perfect time to end this, even if you have booked or bought Christmas or have New Years plans. You will just make new bad memories and keep yourself from connecting to positive experiences you could be having even alone.
    I was so hurt by a turmoil of bad relationships that I was alone for 3 years. I do not regret what I learned in that time but if I hadn’t been so low (and had to let go of so much anger and replays of what I could have done differently. U can never say anything so wise to an @hole that they are suddenly enlightened. You can only value your self and change your situation.
    I love to take off and roam the deserted beach on the islands in the area–its not safe to go alone–so I would put up with my x partner so I could enjoy nature–I wasn’t enjoying it while he was cussing and ruining the view. I took an adventure working for a shrimp boat captain who I lived with. Hard work to see dolphins and waves. I learned I was capable of so much–but he complained about everything non stop.
    I understand wanting to share outdoors/time with someone. Please don’t wait as many years as I did……as I became older I started having panic attacks regretting my choices. sooner or later physical violence will probably come from men who yell and curse….its emotional violence regardless.

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