anita,

Although I have been struggling to forgive what she did, we are both struggling to let go.

I did go to speak to her that night and once more since. At some points, I completely forgot about why the relationship ended and things felt normal. We did talk about the situation, then we laughed together like we always had done.

We never drifted prior to the break-up. It feels like it’s ended suddenly for no good reason, even though I know it has.

While I have come to realise that a serious relationship with her is unlikely to happen again for reasons other than what she did (She wants children in the future and I don’t and we both now have potential career paths that will mean being far away from each other) I am not ready to be without her.

anita

The emotional attachment is still very much there.

You could put it like that – while we are no longer labeling ourselves as in a relationship but our behaviour over the past few days would suggest otherwise.

Both of us know deep down that it is temporary. I am worried knowing that eventually, I will have to let go. Is there any advice you can give me for when this time comes?

Thank you for your response, anita.

We by no means felt like we were equal, as the releationship had ended before I slept with another woman. We did try again recently to work on things but we mutually came to the conclusion that we will have to break up eventually due to wanting very different things in the future. We have decided to cut our losses, but are not completely closed off to the idea of working on things if we feel we cannot be without eachother. I am glad to be able to say that we have ended things on good terms. Depsite her mistakes, she is a really wonderful person and I wouldn’t have wanted us to end with any animosity between us.

Thank you to everyone who has responded to my post, you have all said some really insihtful things and I’m pleased to report that I am now at peace with everything that has happened. 🙂