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  • April 13, 2021 at 8:21 am #377602
    Anonymous
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    Dear Erin:

    “This entire situation is complicated beyond belief”- a big part of the complication will resolve if you can see that it is not that you failed (to love both people equally), but that it is not possible to love two people equally.

    You can slice a cake to equal size portions, but you cannot slice your heart/ emotions into equal-size portions.

    Your polyamorous experiment failed: it caused you fear, panic, guilt, regret and your head is spinning. Perhaps a mono-amorous aka monogamous relationship is a better choice for you (?)

    anita

    April 13, 2021 at 8:31 am #377603
    Erin
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    It was possible for them, they share their heart with so many but mine only wants one at a time. I do think a monogomous relationship would be better when i am ready, but it is sad to know i was the only one. Thank you

    April 13, 2021 at 8:37 am #377604
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    Dear Erin:

    You are welcome. I don’t think it was possible for the other two to love each other equally. More likely, what happened is that (if one is to grade the intensity of love in percentages), you loved one 90% and the other, 50%, while each one of the other two loved one around 50% and the other around 55%. The difference of love for you was 40% and for the other two, 5%.

    anita

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