Hi Melly,

It CAN be tough to completely leave our childhood wounds and insecurities. It does that practice to reprogram our neuro pathways to be this new adult person who has healed. You said so yourself that you are feminine and attractive. Own that sister! This means not only you are a desirable mate/girlfriend but your sense of Self goes along with that.

Take time to heal for yourself. That healing does require to let go of the past, be in the present moment where you can acknowledge yourself as a desirable woman who has learned how not to give up yourself to another person and to focus what is good about you.

It sounds like you are still learning what is a healthy relationship and perhaps this is a good opportunity to learn why this past relationship was not that and what you can do different next time.

You ARE a bright, shining star of a woman Melly and even though you don’t feel that way now, it is your work to find and acknowledge that about yourself.

Metta,
Mark