Well….Im in my early 30s all my relationships(only 2 which were serious) left me unable to trust. I have been lied upon, cheated upon and had a man who would make promises but never kept it.
I have been single since last 6 years mostly coz I needed a break from all these emotional abuse and also coz I had to settle down career-wise.
Now I’m at a place in my life where I’m open to date again seriously and I constantly find myself feeling scared.
The main issue is I’m not able to trust in what the other person says. I’m taking the help of online dating coz I don’t find time to meet people personally.
There is this one person who is actually nice and now he wants me to meet in person. I get scared that what if he doesn’t turn up(like how my exes did). I find that I dissect his each line and try to find out whether there is something else to it. I constantly worry that once he may leave just like that after meeting me.
Also this person isn’t much of a talker. He never calls. But he is constantly in touch with messages n chats. I was so paranoid of him not calling me as(he might have someone else etc etc) and asked my friend to check on him. Apparently he is really single but open in meeting up people.
Now I feel that whether its my mind which is who is wrong which keeps comparing him n his actions to my exes.
I don’t want to lose a good man(if he indeed is) and don’t want to project my insecurities onto him.
Kindly advice.