Dear Euipoi:

My feedback about your article, whatever comes to my mind as I read it: reads nice and clear. I like you presenting healing as a PROCESS and a LONG ongoing PROCESS. That makes me believe that indeed you are healing, it makes me inlclined to trust the authenticity of what I am about to read next. I like the being open to change (#1).

I will mention my concerns only regarding the following, qualifications I may add in your article if I was you so to avoid misinterpretations by people who tend to see all-or-nothing, like me, and other things I disagree with. These are: #2 I have some trouble with and it is that some negative thoughts are realistic. Your suggestion may be interpreted by a person as: negative thoughts is a bad thing to entertain: must change every negative thought into a positive one. Same with #3: sometimes “can’t” is realistic and needs to stay in the vocabulary. An extreme example: I can’t fly- I mean spread my arms and fly.

#4: “Pain is there to remind us what we can endure” – well, maybe for you. For me this is not the purpose of pain. Its purpose is to deliver me a message I need to realize, that I am trying to achieve a valid goal ineffectively, for example, doing what does not work. “It is what makes us stronger.” You wrote, not necessarily so. Pain makes millions of people pass on that pain in the form of abuse. It can make us stronger, not necessarily so.

I am stopping here. I don’t know if my input so far is welcome. The problem I have with such writings is that overly positive slant that takes things into the unrealistic realm. Got to qualify, subdue great ideas, make them less grandiose and more realistic, doable, achievable. Let me know if you want more of my input.

anita