Hello Ladies,

I wanted to give you an update. I met with my friend for coffee, the male friend who continues to be in the group with the rest of the couples. We had a very nice catch up and then discussed why the “victim” maybe have reached out to me with the text to get together. They had all gotten together and one of them brought it up. All the women seemed surprised we chose not to come back to the group. He and his wife basically relayed how upset I felt, how ganged up on by the two ladies and that we were definitely done with their group. Interestingly they are all behaving as if they did nothing wrong.

I was momentarily baffled that they thought we’d come back, but you’ll both be proud to know, I didn’t ruminate on any of it and let it go. I still occasionally feel the injustice of the situation, but 90 percent…I just don’t care and feel better off. I messed up, betrayed confidence…absolutely. And I didn’t deserve the response… mean and passive aggressive. I don’t need those types of relationships in my life. And guess what? I don’t have them anymore!

My sister told me that she feels I have no middle ground with people. Either they are best friends or dead to me…there is definitely some truth to this statement.  I’m questioning a lot about myself…did I force these friendships? Why did I befriend them in the first place? What type of people do I want in my life moving forward? What about my relationship with my mother fuels my female relationships? It feels a little like growth.

This forum helped me so much. You ladies have such wisdom and I truly appreciate the insight, compassion and understanding that I felt I didn’t deserve at the time. This forum has brought an awareness to my relationships and an appreciation of mindfulness that is valuable and absolutely appreciated. While you may hear from me for an update every now and again, I truly feel like I’m in a place of control and strength over my mind and I have the two of you to thank.

-K