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January 30, 2015 at 12:11 am #72101
popi
ParticipantYou have to build up your confidence. That’s it.
there are many girls and guys out there many kinds of people
All different. Don’t see them are yourself.
Believe in yourself and your life and your goals.
love your activities try to find the strength to see life more adventurous.
when you will feel more happy and lucky and strong
Then you will start to attract the same kind of person.
Nobody wants to have wrong choices so stop complaining and live free.
When you get out in a bar for instance, feeling good lucky happy, only by your feelings people will like you.
Its all about socialization buddy.
Its not about motivation or stuff
Try to fix yourself your wrongs and disadvantages and then the right person will approach you.January 30, 2015 at 2:43 am #72103Kath
ParticipantWow, that’s a lot of pressure on a girl… She not only has to be all the things you expect from her, but also love someone who does not really like himself and tries really hard to be some kind of “image”! This can only lead to a relationship where both try to keep up a facade all the time.
Seriously, a good relationship is not about looks! Studies show that attractive women tend to settle with less attractive men 😉You should be loved for who you are, including your weaknesses!
I agree with popi that you need to built confidence. How is this done? Strangely it is done by accepting your weaknesses! Accept that you are not perfect, that others might look better, be funnier, have it easier to talk to people. You are completely ok, even if certain women reject you. Maybe they are the wrong ones for you?You cannot change the boots you are walking in (your self, which you need to accept), but you can change the path you are walking on (a life and a relationship that is suited to your actual needs, not those of the person you try to be!)
January 30, 2015 at 11:12 am #72119Alex
ParticipantWhat tips do you have to keep you going and feeling confident and strong – to keep going even when you feel down or angry or jealous or behind? Sometimes I try repeating mantras in my head or in the car which is useful or listen to songs like Fort Minor.
You may want to work on coping with rejection and your confidence factor.
When it comes to dating, my failure rate is higher than my success rate. I think that is true for the majority of men – even for those that seems to be successful with the ‘ladies’. In dating, you are going to get rejected a lot so get use to it or remain single for the rest of your life.
The most important aspect though is to learn from those failures without letting them drive you crazy. Maybe you are a poor conversationalist? Your wardrobe sucks? You chew food and talk at the same time and ended up spitting food on her? Etc… It is important to self-analyze so you can grow as a person.
Confidence is an attraction booster. If you like yourself and are happy with your life then you will naturally be confident. If you don’t have natural confidence, it is possible to fake it and get a few dates, but real confidence will you get you further in dating and life.
Now confidence can be a bit tricky and turn into arrogance so you need to toe that line very carefully. How do you recognize it?
Confidence is quiet; It is thoughtful, kind, spontaneous, and generous to all those around. Confidence stems from peace of mind.
Arrogance is loud; It is brash, selfish, manipulative, and guarded. Arrogance stems from insecurities.
To recap:
You are going to get rejected a lot, and that is completely normal.
You should keep trying and continue to learn from your setbacks and failures.
You need to grow as a person and like yourself for who you are and because that is where confidence comes from.January 30, 2015 at 4:03 pm #72122Doreen Dawson
ParticipantHi Trevor!
The best motivation is to focus more on yourself and on what makes you, well you. No Comparison here.
Go after your hobbies, goals and enjoy life without expectations.
Don’t let your mind overtake your heart in romance, keep everything open, let things go even rejection and keep moving forward.
Only when you love yourself will you be able to truly love someone else.
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