Over 4 months ago, I found out that the guy I was dating had lied to me for over a year. My impression of who he was, was completely false. I discovered that he was a secret drug addict, and some pretty scary things happened towards the end of the relationship. For example, he had bought a car from a friend, and they had an agreement on monthly payments. My ex stopped paying, and he got served papers to go to court. Instead of being a normal person, he staged a robbery of his own vehicle. He came to me one day crying saying he had been robbed and his car was stolen and “they” knew where I lived because they made him drive him home so they could drop him off and take his car. This was his reasoning for why he didn’t want to go to the police. After breaking up with him, I was in contact with the detective and he was sure that this was all drug related, and when they found his car, the guy who had it knew about the court date and said he was “holding on” to the car as a favor.

I was not in contact with my ex at all. I heard he was in treatment again, and so I just went and moved on. Last month, he started contacting me. He sent me an e-mail first telling me he was sorry and thanked me for everything I did for him. He admitted to doing drugs, but lied about everything else. I ignored everything until he called me from a different number. I thought it was someone else and answered. He was clearly on something, and he sound very strange telling me ” I should get off the phone” and basically told me that I hurt him and I need to stay of out his fu**ing life.

I haven’t heard from him since, and he’s been blocked in every way, but I can’t help but to always feel scared. Like, I don’t know if he will try to come to my house or something. Anytime I try to sleep, I have to check my whole house, and every time I hear a noise, I get paranoid and get up and check everything again. I feel scared to go outside and always have my pepper spray in my pocket. I’m tired of living in fear. He was never violent towards me, but when he is on drugs he is a different person, and I don’t know what he is capable of. My hope is that as time goes on, he just moves on and leaves me alone. But I want to stop feeling scared all the time.

Any advice?