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October 19, 2018 at 9:31 am #231925
AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
I think so, people have posted here pictures, even videos of themselves. As a matter of fact, members attach pictures of their pets by their username, so yes, it is possible!
anita
October 20, 2018 at 7:44 am #232115
BellaParticipantHi Anita,
It is a nice rainy Saturday & I am watching Twilight Zone, (do you remember it from the 60’s)…I use to watch it with my parents as a child and it comforts me to bring back those feelings.
I am a little sad today…I have been reading other break-up post & for some strange reason, I feel their pain…Maybe I should not read anymore. I just thought it might help me as I have read others it helps.
I wish the sadness would go away soon, I don’t want to shed any more tears as it does no good…I will probably lay low today and enjoy this quiet lazy day. We are finally having a break in the hot weather and the cooler temps. feel very nice.
I don’t know what has brought on the terrible feeling of sadness and will be glad when the day comes that I will have Joy in my life.
Enjoy your weekend and I will post again soon.
I tried to send a picture of my kitties, but I had no luck 🙁
Bella~
October 20, 2018 at 8:37 am #232125AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
Better stay away from breakup stories for now (I read your reply there), relax into the rainy day. I like it when there is break in the heat, although fortunately I don’t experience much heat here, but used to live in a very hot and humid place. I loved The Twilight Zone, very much so! If I did watch TV/ movies, I would be watching it again as well. Regarding posting the photos, I wouldn’t know how. I am low tech.
anita
October 20, 2018 at 8:38 am #232127BellaParticipantHi Anita,
I need to ask a question. Back in June I told you about my ex’s box of pictures he left and I asked him several times to come & pick them up. Well, 4 months later they are still here & since I have found 2 of his Bibles he had as a child and a small antique knife collection while I was cleaning.
What should I do with his items, as I do not want any contact with him, but also would feel terrible to throw them out…
Any suggestions~ Apparently, he has no concern for these items, but I wish they were not in my Home…
Bella~
October 20, 2018 at 8:46 am #232131AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
I just had a thought about what you can do with these pictures and bible. Next time you go to the store that still provides him with the discount, or elsewhere, where people have been reporting to you sightings of him, tell the person with the next report something like this: I am so glad you are interested in my ex, so very glad! Here are his pictures and his bibles, I don’t want them in my home. You are interested in his life enough to tell me about it, so here, you can have these, enjoy!
What do you think…?
anita
October 20, 2018 at 9:19 am #232149BellaParticipantHi Anita,
Love it~ I am sure they would love to humiliate him and give him his items.
Guess I will finish my T.Z. Marathon & play with my babies. I have a Black stray I feed, his name is Ralph. Named him after my father, he loved black cats. I always feed him and my little girl goes nuts when he is around. I believe she has a kitty crush on Ralph. She is watching him as I write this post.
Once again, thank you for the advice.
Bella~
October 20, 2018 at 9:27 am #232155AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
You are welcome, let me know how that works, if you get another sighting report and you have the items in your car to give to the reporter. I don’t normally come up with ideas like this, but it so happens that I did and it tickles me.
Your kitty has a kitty crush on Ralph, hilarious!
anita
October 20, 2018 at 9:38 am #232159BellaParticipantHi Anita,
I need your help with an issue I have when I get extremely upset or board. I shop online…In the past few weeks, I have racked up an enormous amount of shopping for clothes and make-up, which I do not need. Now, I will have to box it all up and return these items as they have served their purpose from being opened and realizing it is a crutch…
It is so embarrassing when I return them because it is so much stuff. I need nothing, it just keeps me occupied momentarily to managed my being bored. And now I will need to make a 4 hour round trip because I am overwhelmed with boxing all of these items. It is all still in the original packing and unused. Why do I do this, & what can I do to stop. I know when I am making the purchases at 2 a.m. it is not needed, but so easy to push the buy button on my computer.
After thinking about it, I use to do it also when my ex & I were together, so it is also mostly out of discontent & sadness…
Bella~
October 20, 2018 at 9:55 am #232243AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
Will read and reply in about an hour from now, or less.
anita
October 20, 2018 at 10:54 am #232253AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
When you shop for new clothes and make up you have the momentary hope that they will bring you the love and company that you need, don’t you? Or just make you feel pretty, feel good. Our motivation in everything we do in life is to feel good.
Solution: On the short term apply will power, stay away from online shopping. Long term: regulate your emotions, meaning, minimize feeling bad, maximize feeling good on an ongoing basis, by talking sense to yourself (that realistic, congruent with reality thinking), by maybe taking a hot bath (on a rainy day like today), guided meditations, yoga, exercise/ walking, these non harmful ways to feel better, ways that don’t cost money or harm us.
anita
October 26, 2018 at 8:12 am #233497BellaParticipantHi Anita,
I didn’t realize it has been 5 days since I have written. I have been extremely stressed, for some reason all the work I have been trying to take care of it not working. One of the workers did not do his work correctly & I have a muddy mess in my yard with the crawl space still flooding. I have not paid him and he wants to do nothing but argue. My yard was burnt by the spray this man said would kill just the weeds, but now I have burnt spots everywhere and it looks terrible. So much is causing me to collapse. I have been in sheer madness trying to return all of the things I purchased, (I have not bought anything else), I just want my life back. Even if it’s not perfect, just a normal life without any drama.
It seems as of late I still think about my ex, (no contact of course), just fleeting thoughts which are only harmful to me. I am sure it is because he always took care of the things I am trying to do that are not working out for me. I just want to crawl under a rock!
I hope you are doing well.
Bella~
October 26, 2018 at 8:21 am #233505AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
The other day I repeatedly tried to submit a post to you, asking you how you are doing but the submission didn’t take. I hope it does this time. Interestingly enough I will be going into the crawl space under my house tomorrow morning! Not lookin forward to it, it will be my first time there.
I understand why you would be thinking about the ex. He took care of the things you are now taking care of alone. That was a great help, at the time.
Yes, I am doing well, thank you for asking. Although I didn’t sleep long enough last night and woke up way too early.
anita
October 26, 2018 at 11:14 am #233545BellaParticipantHi Anita,
So glad to read your post even if it was short…Be careful under the crawl space (spiders)…LOL
Today is about 40 degrees & raining hard & a dreary day. I use to love the rain when it was cloudy/cold & raining…But now all I think about when it rains is what is flooding & where am I going to find leaks. My grass needs mowing & my fridge needs the filter changed & I am not sure where to turn the water off …LOL I am starting to sound sooo helpless. I think it is because all of these firsts, in things needing to be taken care of since he has been gone is getting overwhelming. Then I start thinking about things again, get sad and cry. I am pitiful at the moment! Maybe tomorrow will be better…I can only hope…
Bella~
Talk soon,
Bella~
October 26, 2018 at 1:40 pm #233571AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
House maintenance work, there is no ending to it. Let’s say you get everything done today, tomorrow there will be something new, so better expect this ongoing something-needs-t0-be-done state of affairs when you own a home. I am not scared of spiders, by the way. Most people are. Rats, I would be scared if I came across a rat. Mice not so bad.
There is a break here in the rain, no sun, sky is grey and I think I am going to try to take a nap real soon. I am very tired and made the mistake of eating unripe, greenish tomatoes from the raised bed, yuck.
anita
October 26, 2018 at 3:51 pm #233599BellaParticipantHi Anita,
The reason I am so overwhelmed is when my Mother passed I purchased her home & my ex and I took on the task together. It is more than I can handle by myself, but I can not sell due to the economy. The house is 2500 sq. ft & I only use 2 rooms. My power bill has been as much as $300 plus. While in my little Condo it was usually around $50…LOL
Plus the 3 acres of land I purchased, big mistake…it is a mess because my ex-thought it would be a good idea to have all the pines removed & now it is a disaster. I have spoken with a realtor about listing for sale. I am not 100% I am ready. So, with everything needing work I am just a bit overwhelmed and angry at my ex of course. I don’t know if I am more angry at myself, or him for getting in this position. I would never have taken on all of the expense if I had known he would walk out and leave me holding the bag. I hope he experiences just a touch of what I am going through. At times it is a bit much and I don’t want a roommate, and don’t want to be forced to sell. So for now, I will Pray and continue to hang on the best I can.
Rats/mice LOL…Snakes???
Your Friend,
Bella~
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