Hi Anita,

I agree with the continuce of no contact…

He never called, or came by to pick up his box of pictures.  They have been sitting on my front porch since we last spoke about him picking them up.  I guess I will put them back in the garage.  I was going to throw them away, but most of them are of his deceased parents & I would feel terrible if I threw them out.

I still hurt & think of things often, but I feel I am starting to take a little bit more control of my life…

Bella~

Hi Anita,

Wow, that sounds so true…If the pictures were mine, I would have gotten them before the other items.

I guess the part about him having more control is true.  He walked out on me, his ex & children…I never saw any remorse in him the whole time we were together over his children & now the delay in the pictures.

I am beginning to feel he was never the man I thought he was.

Have a nice weekend Anita~

Bella~

Hi Anita,

Wanted to touch base & say hi…My feelings are changing from hurt to anger~  I realize he moved out & started a new life because all of the fun was gone for him…Going to sell my home & build a new one required him to be responsible & he does not like responsibility.  I was hurt that he was going & doing so many things with his new friend, but it hit me yesterday that we had been trying to save our $$ to put towards the new home instead of running around just having fun.  I remember he told me shortly after he moved that I wouldn’t do fun things with him anymore.  It all made sense yesterday when I realized we were more in a saving & work mode so we could hire a contractor to build the home we wanted, but when the fun stopped and responsibility moved in he couldn’t handle it…He seems to want nice things but when you take away his fun, he jumps off the old lily pad on to a new one~ It’s sad , but seems so true…Part of me would love to sit him down & beat some sense in to him, but I will never give him the time of day!!

It is getting easier & I hope this feeling continues…

Bella~

🙂  🙂

Hopefully this feeling will continue & I hope all remnants of him will disappear!!

Thank you for all of your help the past few months…This forum has helped me to grow~

Bella~

Hi Anita,

Feeling a bit low today, a friend called today & said she saw my ex with his new girl & a dagger went threw my Heart~

She said I needed to realize once he jumped in the bed with her he probably lost all feelings for me…I told her we had not seen, or spoken in weeks & she said she never has any contact with her ex’s…

I don’t care what others do, all I know is how I deal with things & to me the way he has been since the broke-up is not normal after 8 years together.  It has done nothing but make me start thinking about him again…I am crying as I write this because it feels like it did in the beginning  with the hurt feeling almost new~

I felt really good yesterday & feel like I am stepping backwards at the moment.

I am sure you probably don’t have much to comment on with this message, but I needed to tell someone & since you are my someone I am telling you~I understand the no-contact rule & distance will make things better eventually…My goodness it has already been 4 mos & it hurts as bad as it did in the beginning.  I have quit talking to anyone except writing these post in reference to my pain & the hurt I still feel.  Most of my friends think I am ok, but really it still hurts,  I keep things myself…

Any advice for a quick fix?

Bella~