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  • June 6, 2017 at 6:24 pm #152210
    Jennifer
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    I have been reading a lot of posts for those who are going through a tough time right now whether it’s dealing with a breakup, family problems, or depression. I understand what it feels like to constantly be in pain, sadness, and frustration with life. Depression is real and it is not easy to overcome, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. I just want to let everyone know that whatever obstacle you are going through just know that you can get over it. How I manage to get through the tough times is to first accept the issues at hand. You need to take things slowly and know that you cannot fix things overnight and that it is a journey to finding your true happiness. Every pain you experience, just know it’ll only make you stronger. See your situation in a way that’ll make you a better person. If you’re going through a break up just know that means someone else out there better is coming along the way. The only person you have to take care of is yourself and that means you must find what makes you happy and no one else. Follow the law of attraction. Start being grateful and appreciative for things that do make you happy every day instead of focusing on the negatives. I’m still learning how to be happy with myself after years of depression but just know it gets better once you take that first step. Go travel the world, aim for that dream job, and do whatever you want to do without letting fear get in the way. What more do you have to lose if you don’t take on your fears head on? Live your life the way you want to because you only get one so how will you make the most of it?

    I really hope this helps for some of you. We all experience life with ups and downs and all we can do is make the most of our lives and learn to be happy with ourselves first in order to make others happy. Love yourself and know you can do anything you set your mind on!

    June 7, 2017 at 7:39 pm #152316
    Mark
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    This is a really inspirational post. Every line could be a quote! Living life focusing on hope, instead of not moving on from something that we often don’t have control over anymore. There is so much beauty if you can see beyond the pain.

    June 8, 2017 at 10:54 am #152428
    PearceHawk
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    Jennifer the words you wrote reflect a beautiful soul and a warm heart. Several years ago I was diagnosed with PTSD from being in Iraq 3 times and Afghanistan once. I recall some people telling the same things you said and at the time the advice seemed “nice” but it was difficult for me to embrace, perhaps due to the depth of PTSD. As time went on I made myself more open and available to such advice. Gradually my thoughts became more coherent and focused. I feel like the words you wrote the other day were spoken to me some years back, because since a few years back I have developed the sort of thinking along the lines of what you said. Your words have touched my past in a very powerful way. I no longer suffer from PTSD, but I deal with it using different modalities of coping, i.e. meditation, doing things as you have suggested to others like getting involved with things that I once did and enjoyed, etc. So I want to reach out to the very people that you are trying to reach here, and I will tell them that what you offer is… forgive me for being stuck on finding the right words…what you offer is very powerful and very real. As I progressed in managing the “things” that haunt me or trouble my soul, I found that the more I practice your words, meditation, and mindfulness, it has become so much easier for me to deal with”things.” After what I read of what your post says, I wish for only 2 things: (1) that many people will embrace your advice and discover the power in your words and (2) that the world is blessed with more people like you.

    June 13, 2017 at 7:00 pm #153028
    Jennifer
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    Thank you so much!! I really appreciate it and I’m glad yall can relate to it.


    @pearcehawk     I understand where you’re coming from because I to had PTSD after a troubling incident in my past where I was close to getting kidnap by a drunk driver and my family troubles over me. It took me a long time to finally move on from the incident but it will always be a part of me because in the end those times made me stronger. Eventually you will have to move on and be happy that you survived those traumas. I can only imagine what you have witness and experience but I’m happy you’re still alive and you still have time to live your life the way you want too!! I to deal with things through meditation and just being grateful for the wonderful people and experiences I have now. Our purpose is to use our experiences to help others get through theirs so I’m really glad you understand and I to want the same things for the better of our world <3

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    June 13, 2017 at 7:27 pm #153038
    PearceHawk
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    WOW!!! Finally, someone who understands. I want to reach out to you with this…I wish you all the love, peace, and happiness that life has to offer, for an eternity longer than a lifetime. It is the least you deserve. For many years, people trying to reach me with the hope of understanding what I went through, was like me floating in an ocean, no life raft, no life vest, and a ship passing by tossing me a life line, except that life line was too short, and the ship sailed on. Things that trigger my PTSD, the nightmares, the reactions, they are all becoming more and more easier to deal with to the point that I finally KNOW within my heart that someday I will be free of all that. For now they are becoming more of a distant memory, albeit still very much real. Thank you for your support. Unfortunately my gratitude is all I have to give you.

    June 13, 2017 at 8:08 pm #153054
    Jennifer
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    @pearcehawk Thank you so much for that and I’m grateful for your gratitude. I understand the experiences of reliving the nightmares and the triggers because I use to get panic attacks easily everytime I get heartbroken or see something that reminds me of the situation and I dealt with the depression from that for many years. I want you to know that you will move on from it and that instead of seeing it as a bad memory see it as an experience that you survive and now understand. Your experiences with PTSD and depression will help others get over theirs once you figure out how to move on from it by empathizing with them and giving them hope that they are strong enough to get through it just like you have. Thank you again for your openness and goodluck on your journey!

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