Dear apples333:

You wrote: “not having my boss always watching me gives me plenty more reasons to stay in my pajama’s all day”- but someone is watching you: you are watching you and giving yourself an unsatisfactory evaluation/ performance report, again and again.

When we are children we need others’ approval, others satisfactory evaluation reports, so to speak. Adults often don’t outgrow this need, but some do. When you find your own boss being you, and you see to it that this boss is reasonable, compassionate and has specific standards that you agree with, that you determine and approve of, then you have a motivation, to satisfy this boss.

anita