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  • May 7, 2017 at 6:47 am #148325
    Craig
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    Hi Susannah, I hear your points. Pretty much see it the same. I would add something else that was brought to my attention. Single people in their 40s and 50s tend to be more avoidant than the population of singles who are in their 20s and 30s. Saying this in an exaggerated way just to make the point: “All the good ones are taken.”

    Avoiders stay perpetually in the dating pool. Certainly that was true of my ex. And trying to be honest with myself, I have been single a long time so I have to examine whether *I* am avoiding closeness and commitment. I don’t think so – I crave a heart- and intellect-based intimacy, but I am cautious to be sure. Maybe at times my caution has gotten in the way. It’s part of my path to figure this out.

    May 7, 2017 at 7:53 am #148343
    Susannah
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    Hmmm…It might be true that all the good ones really are taken! 😉 Like I said yesterday, none of my friends have been single after the age of 35. (Some of those relationships are not very fulfilling and make me wonder what keeps them together…) Some days ago I had coffee with a friend of mine, who is around 60. She told me about the important relationships of her life and the reasons why they had ended. “I have had such deep experiences and would never settle to a “well, I guess this is quite ok” -kind of relationship.” I completely agree.

     

    Closeness and commitment – two great “c-words”. It is possible that some people avoid them because of certain fears and without them a relationship cannot really bloom. I am more than willing to give myself 100 %! I just wish that it will happen some day. It would be such a fortune to live side by side with the right man, who would dedicate himself to me as much I would to him.

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