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December 24, 2014 at 10:10 am #69767vidaleviParticipant
I know this topic is quite old and I, myself have gone through rejections, but each Tim it happens, it crushes my very ‘being.’ My confidence shatters and I feel I’m good for nothing. I’m sad, I’m angry and I have all unpleasant emotions riding on me periodically. It takes such a long time to get out of thus cycle. And it doesn’t help much either when you have to face the person who rejected you almost everyday. And the way they try to avoid or ignore you, throws you back into the emotional roller -coaster again. I have been trying to avoid the person but certain circumstances force you and them in the same settings.
Any suggestions on how not to take it personally and move on ?December 24, 2014 at 12:43 pm #69771AdamParticipantHey,
So before we can brush off rejection we have to understand why it makes us feel so badly first. Ignoring the issue will only suppress it and can make it even worse. Stop rejecting that part of yourself and instead, open yourself to it. The ego is a very real thing and if you’re aware of your own ego, it’s easier to address. However, if we don’t know our ego’s, it tends to run wild with our thoughts and feelings. The ego craves attention, approval, praise, and acceptance. This desire for acceptance and approval from others is why we feel so badly when we’re rejected. It makes us feel like we’re not good enough, less of a human than everyone else, and ugly. Which couldn’t be further from the truth and I hope you realize that.If we want to get rid of that feeling of rejection, we first must accept and approve of ourselves. If we don’t like ourselves, why should we assume others will too? We have to find that love for ourselves first. After we start taking that step, love finds more ways into our lives. Know your value and appreciate who you are. Appreciate the person you are, Respect your place in this life, and believe that you’re worth the effort. You are. We all are.
Stay positive. I know this is tough but I also know that you can be better from this if you choose to learn from the opportunity.
I hope this helps in any way.
thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog. If you need more help, you may find it there.December 25, 2014 at 1:29 am #69791vidaleviParticipantAdam,
Thanks a lot for the reply. I really appreciate it.
I’m really struggling with ‘love yourself’ phase because from childhood I have thrived on external validation and appreciation.
Very recently I have realised that I have very less self-love and self worth. I was never comfortable with my looks and always felt I wad physically not beautiful. I was made fun of during my school and college days(dark and fat) and I had rather become reclusive and an introvert.
The people whom I dated cheated on me and left me for others and it affirmed my belief that I’m not worth it at all.
The so-called friends and relatives used me ti get their work done and they dumped me thereafter.
Very slowly I’m getting out of these cycles and surrounding with people who genuinely keeps reminding me of my self – worth.
Everything wad going fine till I got rejected and I wad thrown into the same well of self-pity.
Thanks again for the reply.
PS: Going through your blog and there are really some good stuffs out there.December 25, 2014 at 1:50 am #69792vidaleviParticipantAlso, Merry Christmas
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