Ok, Maybe there isn’t a such thing as too much Compassion or Understanding, but here is my dilemma…My husband and I have been married for 6 years now. A lot has happened in our 5 years including death of several loved ones, addiction, job loss and the list goes on. As is normal, this has affected our marriage and we just can’t seem to get it back to normal (whatever that means). I have just recently joined this site and am reading a lot about Buddhism and love everything it stands for. I have been trying to practice the mindfulness part lately, as I can get a little anxious and have been trying to stop drinking so much wine. My husband is all about trying the meditation, which I think would help greatly. However, he is just so angry all the time lately and it just seems as though everything that has happened has created this mean angry person that I am having a hard time living with. He used to be so compassionate and understanding, but I don’t know him anymore. I want to help him, but I know that I can only help myself and my own anger. It takes everything I have to not snap back at him when he is mean. I tell him, “I will not talk to you until you have calmed down and will not allow you to talk to me that way” Of course he keeps going and I go about my business. I love him with all my heart and we have been through so much together. I want to fix this, but am losing heart. Can I fix this? Or are you going to tell me that I can only fix me and hope that he follows? Thank you for listening…