Dear Polly

You are still young and have your entire future ahead of you. Sometimes in life we look for answers so desperately that we don’t see them lying in front of us. Have you tried telling him how you feel and what impact this is having on you and your relationship? Trust is so hard to build and yet so easy to break but it is the vital element in maintaining a marriage. If your trust for your husband is no longer there, the marriage will no longer be the same. However regardless of all that, its all about time. Only time will tell when you’re ready to make your move. I can only tell you from experience that having gone through a similar but more complex situation in life and with the involvement of children, I was so focused in doing the right things for my children that the focus on society, house and even the loneliness was not considered until a latter stage. I had children as my focal point and to a degree I was unable to do things that I wanted to do. Now as my children are getting older and the house dispute is coming to an end I can free myself some spare time for ME. Please don’t ever make the same mistake as I did. ‘HOPE’ was one vital element I lived off after losing ‘TRUST’ and that nearly left me with a mental breakdown. I knew when the right time was for me to walk away and I did. Live your life, love your life, love who you are. In good time all will fall into place for you. You will get your answers.

I wish you all the best and pray that you find all the answers to your questions soon.

With love
Reha x