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May 12, 2014 at 3:29 pm #56164LiveSimpleParticipant
I hope this doesn’t seem silly, but here it goes anyway. Thank you in advance for your reading and responses.
I’ve reached a point in my life where I am content-meaning, I have found happiness within myself without needing to be in a relationship. Once I finally felt “happy” with just being me, having feelings of wanting to be in a relationship stopped. So, for several months now I have not been dating nor looking to date.
A few months ago, I unexpectedly met someone (who is now my friend) and we have spent a lot of time getting to know eachother. At first, he wanted to be more than friends, but I did not want to because I wasn’t interested in being in a relationship-which he does know. Now, here is where the confusing part comes along! Every time I see him, I get butterflies in my stomach. I have feelings for him. I never expected to have these feelings at all and it totally throws me through a loop because I feel a deep, emotional connection. What should I do? I don’t want to risk our friendship, but I couldn’t picture myself not telling him because it feels right, yet it’s so crazy to me!
May 12, 2014 at 4:14 pm #56168MattParticipantLivesimple,
Its OK to pounce on him, just be gentle. 🙂 Its not crazy to be in love, it only gets crazy when we stop self nurturing as we go dance with a partner. Then, too much of our happiness gets interwoven with them, and we begin to feel helpless and restless without them. Keep to the good habits you’ve formed, but if he’s earned your trust and your love, what else could you do but tell him? He may have moved on, he may not have, you’ll never know until you dive in and let yourself be vulnerable in that way. After all, his attentions are held in check by the boundaries you created, so who knows what flood awaits you behind that curtain. Namaste, good luck!
With warmth,
MattMay 15, 2014 at 10:59 am #56336Utpal VaishnavParticipantLivesimple,
Take the purest action you can. Meaning you tell your friend about your true feelings. One of the following would happen:
1. Your friend will reciprocate
2. You friend will say “No” and walk away from your relationship
3. Your friend will say “Not now!”If you get reciprocation, that’s what is the truth and you won’t regret your decision.
If your friend will say “No” and walk away, it just means that you were true to your feelings and other person does not have the maturity to respect your feelings
If your friend will say “Not now”, it will open the door of new opportunities for both of you.When your eliminate the difference between what you want to show and what you really feel, you stop regretting your decisions and start enjoying the world of possibilities.
The best life lived is life without regrets, isn’t it?
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