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April 3, 2013 at 6:16 pm #30398
AnonymousInactiveThere’s a lot that goes on in the workplace besides work. How do you deal with “office politics”? Please share your stories and your solutions.
June 5, 2013 at 4:32 pm #36507
Debra.Zen.55ParticipantCurrently I am in an office dilemma. A co-worker verbally abused and shouted at me. Other workers have discussed, over the past two years, how I could put up with this person who is always on the internet, chatti.g constantly and leaving me with a heavy workload which my supervisor has to distribute to others who can help although we are all overwhelmed. After the outburst the other workers rushed to me, as I was sobbing. The next day everything changed. Even though I hadhelped two of them get them get their great jobs and I am known to be ultra positive, cheerful and help everyone, the witnesses said they could not take sides. This was my my greatest hurt as they have alienated me and do not speak. Management said the person who abused me and me have to go through mediation to repair this relationship.I felt bullied and abandoned. I have been meditating and I discovered this website and I read it every morning for hours to keep positive.Thank you to all who have posted. I keep my head high, try not to cry and keep your advice in my head. Thank you to all on this and if anyone can advise me on any of this I would greatly appreciate it, Namaste
June 10, 2013 at 11:50 pm #36738
PratyushParticipantdont take sides 🙂
June 11, 2013 at 3:55 am #36745
BobParticipantFor me ‘office politics’ are a big waste of time where loud voices collide with one another, I usually feel drained of my energy to begin work all over again and for the most part nothing is ever solved. So for the most part I agree with Pratyush; remain true to myself and focus in on the task I need to perform. No matter how much smoke billows up or how deeply it is buried or totally taken for granted; truth will always rise up to the surface.
Negative thought patterns only serve to upset me and I must turn off the channel or at least lower the volume when I am surrounded by it.
June 21, 2013 at 2:17 pm #37280AnonymousInactiveWhenever conflict arises, I simply try to remember to respond and not react. With that said, though, verbal abuse cannot be tolerated. It is unproductive and unkind. Even without knowing the specifics about the conflict, an agreement to speak respectfully and kindly when disagreements arise can easily be included in mediation.
May you know kindness at work.
June 21, 2013 at 2:26 pm #37281AnonymousInactiveYes, remaining true to ourselves and carrying on with our work is always good. What do you do when your awareness of office politics (others’ actions) drains your energy?
I have learned to avoid the “water cooler” so to speak, but I still find it sometimes difficult to carry on when the “loud voices collide” with one another. I just try to remember to allow these adults to work things out. I remember to own my own business.
July 6, 2013 at 4:52 am #38052Debra.Zen.55ParticipantThank you for your replies. It was a difficult process however I was up early every morning before work and immersed myself with positive and authentic readings. I read articles from Tiny Buddha and read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I journalled and wrote positive affirmations, looking at the situation from all angles and turned this into a positive learning and growing experience for myself. It worked!! Namaste
July 6, 2013 at 10:08 am #38066
JadeParticipantIn work, as in the rest of life, I follow the motto “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything”. I thankfully work at an office with relatively little drama… or maybe there IS drama, I just don’t know about it because I refuse to participate in conversations that sound anything like gossip. Seriously, I will remove myself from the situation if that’s the case. No good comes from focusing on negativity or petty issues, so I do my best to make sure my own interactions with everyone are cordial and cheerful, and any criticism is professional and constructive.
July 12, 2013 at 11:01 am #38491AnonymousInactiveDebra,
The Four Agreements work for everything. I find writing to be helpful too. I’m so glad to read that your problem-solving experience resulted in a positive outcome.
Smiles!
July 12, 2013 at 11:04 am #38492AnonymousInactiveJade,
This old saying is so true. Even difficult words, those that help us through conflict, can be said kindly. And, yes, removing ourselves from negativity or pettiness is the best choice. Just think, if everyone did this, gossip, et al would soon become habits of the past.
Thanks for adding your wisdom to this conversation.
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