Dear arianas2017:

Are his parents okay now with you and him getting married?

If they are or if he is solid with his intent to marry you regardless of his parents’ input, that is, if he is so solid about the marriage with you, that his parents backed down and gave up on their efforts to arranged a marriage for him with a local woman, then he is a very exceptional man.

If this is the case, then his past transgressions, as far as I see, are forgivable and his overall behavior and ethics are admirable. I never read yet a story where an Indian man does stand up to his parents until they back down and he marries the woman he wishes to marry. Again, and again, the man gives in and back down. The parental pressure, supported by societal pressure, to obey parents (no matter how unreasonable they are) is incredible.

If I was you, I would make sure the parents backed down- maybe talk to them, to make sure, but even then…- make sure he is solid. Do not underestimate the pressure and consider it may not be over. Make sure, and then, if he is solid then he is a very exceptional young man, one in a million or so.

anita

Arianas2017 Hi ! Im sorry you’re going through this, the one thing I can share is a random fact about indian culture; since the pictures specifically are bothering you. Indian photographers direct the pictures of the couples they are photographing; people who may not be emotionally close at all are photographed with their heads on each others shoulders, hugging or demonstrating affection. So the pictures are not necessarily demonstrative of a bond. The forehead kiss may not be an impulse, but just following the photographers direction. I hope you and your partner are able to move through this and come back to a place of trust
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You are welcome, arianas2017, hope your present and future is one of love and peace of mind.
anita