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  • November 13, 2013 at 11:03 am #45240
    Anonymous
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    Hey Namritha,
    I think the main thing is to first forgive yourself. Not one of us is perfect in our relationships. We all say things that we may later regret but the first step in moving forward is to totally and completely forgive yourself.
    Gently remind yourself all throughout the day “I’m doing the best I can and it’s enought”
    How have you been taking care of yourself?
    You can’t control his behavior but I do believe if there was once love there then it can definitely return.
    For now I would focus on taking really excellent care of YOU and that will certainly help shift the vibe.
    Sending you a big hug!
    Carla

    November 13, 2013 at 9:48 pm #45288
    sia
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    hi namritha… i think you can tell him or text him or email him..(communicate..) that you did not mean to talk in that rude way… all you wanted is his attention (or love..), and those things just came out of your mouth before you knew it.. and ask him to forgive, say sorry for the bad words…(if all this is true..) let him know how much important he is and how much u value your relationship… also let him know if there are any other aspects in your life such a job/ education, etc which make you unhappy and drained.. and made u say those words..
    also, you would not know what he was facing at the time you called and said those things… it might be (might be…) that he himself was under a lot of stress and when he found that u, his very important person is not understanding him, he thought it is better to stay silent..
    in a relationship, honesty, truth and communication go a very long way.. these things enhance trust, understanding..
    so, it is always better to communicate.. let the other person know what u are going through.. your man might open up and tell u his side of story too..
    really hope that this helps…
    best of luck to u..

    November 14, 2013 at 1:43 am #45296
    Karin
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    Dear Namritha,

    I recognize a lot from your story. I used to be in a relationship where i expected my boyfriend to make me happy. I needed him. I needed more attention. I was needy, just like you say. It wasn’t a healthy relationship and when it ended i knew I had to change something.

    It took me 4 years, but i learned to take responsibility for my own happiness. I read about mindfulness, i read inspiring articles on the internet and slowly understood that i cannot demand happiness from anyone. I cannot expect to get all his attention when i want it. I cannot expect him to fix me or rescue me from my past. And whatever he would do, I couldn’t believe he loved me, because I could not imagine anyone could really love me… I had to love myself first.
    In my opinion a healthy relationship is not about needing someone else, it’s about sharing love and happiness.

    I’m not saying you shouldn’t fight to keep this relationship, but I would like to advise you to work on loving yourself. On being enough for yourself. You have everything in you that you need, including lots of love and understanding. Explore, dig deep, you will find it. (Much like Carlamholden says, she only says it in a nicer way 😉 )

    I wish you lots of strength and love,
    Karin

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