Dear Fillipa:

“We told each other that we’ll keep in touch and we went no contact for 2 months. I was slowly getting over him when he suddenly texted me four weeks ago.. back and forth but he totally ignored my last message. He didn’t even click on the convo. I don’t understand why”-

– Some people are not in a rush, to say the least. When you decided to “keep in touch”, for you it may have meant to connect in the week to come; for him it may have meant to connect whenever he felt like it: the following week or the following year.

He messaged you four weeks ago, you messaged back, he then messaged again, you messaged.. and at one point he didn’t message back to you: I think he is back to the  whenever I feel like it attitude.

When you receive a message, I imagine that you think it’s your responsibility to answer in a timely manner, being socially responsible that way. Am I correct?

Some people are not socially responsible: they don’t consider how  their actions (or lack of actions) distress other people. Instead, they postpone doing what they don’t feel like doing at any one time.

Does this make sense to you?

anita