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August 1, 2017 at 10:11 am #161573
Anonymous
GuestDear JFlow:
Intuition means the ability to understand something quickly, without the need to use logic. It is based on feelings and prior experience. Often enough we don’t decipher correctly the true message behind what we feel. For example, we may feel disliked by a particular person following that person’s facial expression while in reality that person is having stomach pains, which is all what his facial expression was about.
It reads to me that there is lack of organization and accountability at your workplace. Therefore there is guessing going on, delays, unnecessary lack of predictability and lots of opportunities for random occurrences to have power where they should not. As well as workplace politics.
As in my example, people’s actions and reactions are more likely to be about them than about you. It is their thoughts, their feelings that are most important to them. Try to be as calm as you can be and observe what is going on from as an objective place as you can muster.
When distressed, postpone such observations and evaluations of what-is-going-on, take time out. We think our best when we are calm.
anita
August 4, 2017 at 1:59 pm #162216Anonymous
InactiveAnita I just feel frustrated about circumstances like this that happen in my life. I personally feel like I am always getting beaten doing or saying something that is wrong and like I did something to deserve negative treatment punishment and doubt even doubting myself which causes others to be mean
but I also know that I am better than that am a professional and have good intentions I just feel like I have to be more careful with my words with people.There is always something to be said by someone and always thoughts and always mistakes and constant learning but im in a funk and do not want to get out of it and play the victim
August 5, 2017 at 4:35 am #162264Anonymous
GuestDear JFlow:
You wrote that you are “always getting beaten doing or saying something…like I did something to deserve negative treatment”- as long as you are alive, you will be “doing or saying something” and unfortunately, for the same duration of time, at times, you will be either observing or personally experiencing “negative treatment” by someone. But the two are not necessarily linked. You are not necessarily the cause of negative treatment; it is not necessarily something you said or did wrong. Mistreatment, injustice happen anyway you talk and behave.
You can talk and behave as perfectly as you can but mistreatment will happen when someone else is angry at something or someone else. Or if someone else is not paying attention or doesn’t care about the consequences of their actions.
Maybe you should be “more careful with my words with people”, for example, if you share personal issues with employees, information of the kind that has been used against you in the past, better not do that again.
anita
August 7, 2017 at 5:54 am #162638FindingMe
ParticipantHi JFlow,
Try to focus on the facts, not on hear say/second hand information from others. Discuss the issue with only people that have direct involvement. People that tell you what they “heard” are increasing your stressors. It’s not information they are sharing …it’s gossip.
Write down things that you do know are facts [Information that can be reference in a document or policy are facts] then review it. You will have a clear understanding on how things transpired. Most importantly your response is articulate.
Also by avoid thoughts that are based on assumption.
Hope that helps.
August 7, 2017 at 9:16 pm #162774Anonymous
InactiveThis is all very good information thank you!
August 24, 2017 at 6:52 am #165420Marie
ParticipantThank you for this information. Worth to read.
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