Hi Doreen – is this habit causing a problem for you? or to the people that you interact with?

I have the opposite problem, where I’m a bit too outspoken about my feelings, and let me tell you – “they” don’t like that either! But I pick and choose the situations I want to respond to.

We can’t change “them”, but we can change ourselves, right? And if you’re feeling like they don’t respect you, could it be possible that you don’t respect yourself enough? I think you’ll notice that when you start respecting yourself, that they will too.

So have you tried this – when you want to say something in response to someone, what happens when you actually say it? Can you try it? Maybe with a simple scenario? Another way would be to send an email to them later explaining how you felt, but obviously not all relationships / acquaintances have email communications with you, so you might have to pick one to practice with.

If you can’t even think of facing them with your feelings, maybe try standing in front of a mirror and practice saying out loud what you feel. Or journal about it.

The main thing is to express who you are! If you’re interested in Chakras, it sounds like your throat chakra may be blocked. If you’re interested, I could talk more about it. If not, I won’t 🙂

Oh good, I’m glad those ideas appeal to you Doreen! Yes, try all those and see what you get results with, and do more of it. And the more you start opening up, the easier it gets.

Well – chakras are invisible energy nodes in our bodies. If you can imagine all your thoughts, emotions, and feelings registered and stored somewhere in your body immediately, the greater the flow of energy through the energy system, the more open your awareness. A weak or blocked flow of energy means that your life might go unnoticed or unexperienced (fully).

There are 7 chakras, and one of them is called the Vishuddha Chakra in Sanskrit, which pertains to the throat – This is where you live your truth, accept and express who you are. Here’s where you’re probably experiencing a block in energy – in claiming responsibility for your life, to voice out your message. The throat chakra is where we stand up for our principles, and live them. When you take on this responsibility, you will understand that you MUST live in alignment with who you are, and your values! Sing out loud, wear more blue, sapphires, aquamarines, etc. and do the Hum meditation.

A couple of links that might help:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtI0oVWZ5N4

If this feels like woo-woo mumbo-jumbo, ignore it! I won’t mind 🙂

Awesome Doreen! Whether you follow through with all of them, or one of them, as long as it gets you closer to speaking your truth, the closer you come to discovering who you are, and not hiding from yourself.

Namaste, Saiisha

Dear Doreen:

You wrote that holding your feelings in is becoming a habit, you mean it started recently, a new behavior of holding your feelings in? What happened recently that caused you to start this new way, holding your feelings inb? What happened to cause you to change from expressing your feelings to not?

anita