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September 14, 2017 at 10:21 am #168664
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GuestDear Aiman:
In the beginning of your post you wrote: “I feel that when I spend too much time with my family, I start to not like myself”- I think it is because they don’t like you. We all like to be liked, need to be liked. When they express their dislike of you, well, that is catching: you start to dislike yourself.
What they are trying to give you (food, laundry…)- you don’t need. What you do need (being liked, being approved of, being respected)- they don’t give you.
In the last part of your post you noted that you did your best to express to them what you expressed in this thread with no improvement in their behavior. You asked for advice about changing your attitude around them so that you are no longer distressed when in their company.
My advice: spend as little time as possible with them (and it is possible to not spend any time at all with them, since it is not illegal…). If you spend time with them, make it so that it is short in duration so you hurt less. Other than that, I have no advice because when you are treated with disapproval, criticism and disrespect, you naturally get angry, you naturally feel distressed. I have no idea how to change what is a natural response on your part.
anita
September 15, 2017 at 10:04 am #168730Rakesh
ParticipantIn my childhood my father used to say ‘Donkey’ to me. At that time I become irritated, but now I realise that ‘Donkey’ is a title given by a beloved father in poor performing marks in study to his son. Also ‘Donkey’ is very hard worker and honest living creature. Now I feel proud to this title.
In India every 2nd person is poor. But we think in America, every man is rich, but in fact every 7th person in USA is also poor. Their media and Hollywood don’t show these paucity and black or violence. I remembered that during Mars Orbital Mission, these media criticizing India and money spend on this mission. CNN and BBC world news’ correspondence in India, showing slum colonies of Mumbai and saying it was wastage of money. We should built infrastructure, toilet, etc…
USA and citizen have their own life and their own problems, culture and should not be compared with India.I have one little suggestion to you; to read books ‘How to win friends and influence people’ & ‘How to stop worrying and start living’, both these books can be freely download from Internet Archive DOT org website in legal manner.
Quote: “A world without idiots is dull world indeed”.
PS: Criticising on back is a characteristic feature of human, and it is not exclusively found in Indians, it is found in every corner, every nation. Also one more suggestion, log out to Facebook. This is irritating. You have right to turn off your computer.
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