I am really going through some troubles. I love my boyfriend with all my heart we have been dating for 2 years and been through a lot. This hurts to type. Recently we have been having troubles and serious talks about breaking up, which has been hurting me a lot.

Here is the story:

Well, he is in college and I am in high school. His freshman year of college he met this girl who was a friend. He told me about her saying they are friends but people think they are together because they flirt. Weird… well, in the summer she always begged him to hangout and he’d be so annoyed (or seemed). We lived together in the summer so I’d see her texting him to hangout, and he’d reply saying “hey, I am going to the movies with my girlfriend I’m sorry” and she’d say “can I come? I want to meet her” so I didn’t think it was that weird. I still was a little suspicious though. I finally met her at a party and she said to me “oh my god hi!!! (boyfriend’s name) has told me so much about you! you are so pretty” and I thought she was so nice. Except for some reason, she’d always follow my boyfriend around at the party. I specifically remember my boyfriend being really drunk at this party, so he was all over me saying “I love this girl, she is so beautiful” (he usually says really nice things about me like that when he is drunk especially, and he always has his hands all over me). Well, he was all over me but she kept coming up to him saying “you promised you wouldn’t ditch me, I don’t know anyone at this party”

He’d always say to me “oh my god she is so annoying she won’t leave me alone” and I did see that he seemed annoyed whenever she’d come around…

She would always ask to hangout with him, so eventually she would end up hanging out with my boyfriend, me, and his friends. It’d be all of us. The girl even started hooking up with one of my boyfriend’s friends… I thought everything was normal! I thought “oh, I did think this girl secretly liked him because of how much she texted him… but now we are kinda friends after hanging out and she hooked up with someone else, she must not like him..” Then.. around September I started noticing weird things. My boyfriend would text me saying “oh my god… (her name) just tried to grind on me..” then I was like, there it is again. She is acting like she likes him again! But I thought “oh, well at least he is being honest about it with me” Then in October things got even weirder and he began to ditch me for her. Like, he’d take her to parties instead of me. There was a 2 week period where he seemed to be choosing her over me… and boy was I suspicious. I wasn’t sure what to think… I felt like it was weird but I also knew they were friends. Then after this period of 2 weeks he told me “she ended up admitting to me that she liked me, that she was jealous of you, that she regretted hooking up with my friend, etc so I told her we can’t be friends anymore and I dropped her” and I was like oh… ok. Then everything went back to normal. Never heard about her again. Until last night, I was drunk and was on my boyfriends phone. I saw that she had texted him recently about their macro final. I then continued to scroll up through their texts from months ago and saw things like this:

Him: “you have been so mean towards me”

Her: “I told you, I wouldn’t care if you brought your girlfriend. I know it may be weird for me but it doesn’t matter. we need to stop doing this. this isn’t right, we aren’t right for each other. Sorry I was grinding on other guys! you told me you wanted this to end! You told me to do what I wanted, so I did”

Him: “okay cool”

Her: “you are just not right for me. all you care about is a girl with a big butt. I have done everything for you!!”

another conversation:

Her: “hey I am going to be a housewife for halloween”

Him: “who is your husband”

Her: “I was going to ask alex or mike if they wanted to be it”

Him: “wow…”

What do I do.. I feel soooooooo much pain. I have felt pain because of our recent fights and talks about breaking up, now this. I confronted him about it immediately and he said “we didn’t have a thing, she thought we did. I dropped her for you!!!! I dropped her because I wanted you!” which I think is just a cover up. I don’t know what to do. I just sent him a bunch of texts pouring my heart out to him saying “I can’t do this anymore, I need happiness, if you don’t love me please do not lead me on anymore. I feel so much pain”

His phone is dead so he hasn’t answered yet. Please help guys, I am hurt as ever. Why would he be texted her those things, they seemed to like each other. I mean… he did drop her for me. He did tell me that she was texting him being so upset. He told me everything EXCEPT for the fact that, well, he seemed to like her too!!!!! Help 🙁 I am so hurt please.