I am reading over this, and their conversations do not seem that bad. I do not remember completely 100% what they said because I read it quickly but believe me…. it seemed so clear to me by their texts that my boyfriend liked her.

So I guess they discontinued their friendship. That’s what he explained it as to me.

Anita: so should I forgive him, overlook this? I mean he did cut her out of his life, except she has texted him about school. When I read their recent texts it was just her asking him questions about school and him giving vague replies. The thing is, our relationship is still rocky and I just want to be good with him. We have been fighting a lot, which makes me think maybe I should just move on.

Anita,

Something important I need to add is that actually during the time that he seemed to be liking this girl, we were fighting. I felt like he wasn’t giving enough effort in the relationship and so I started the fight. I remember I was trying so hard to fight with him and get a reaction out of him but he remained calm. This made me angry so I started saying horrible, horrible things. I said such horrible things he broke up with me. I understood, I said such  mean things out of anger. Well, my assumption is that when we were broken up, he may have been hurt that I said those things and maybe looked to this girl to feel better. A little bit after we got back together is when my boyfriend told me she had liked him and that he dropped her. That is when things went back to normal between us. And now, our fights are started by him. He kinda says what I am saying, that I do not give enough effort. That is what our fights are centered around now. But the thing is…. everyone who I ask says I should leave him. So I have been making efforts at doing so. Should I leave him? I honestly wish he was more open with me, then it wouldn’t be a guessing game for me. He has never been open about his emotions. Maybe I need to talk with him in person… but I don’t know. I hate it. I hate how unhappy I am right now. He is so bad at helping me to understand what to do.

Dear Anita:

I realized that this was just 1/100 instances where my boyfriend was not faithful. Honestly, that is the least of my problems. I probably will never know what happened with this girl. I have talked to him recently about this and he explained everything. It made sense. This problem is the least of my worries now, I am not worried about it. What I am worried about is that he is abusive emotionally and I have been dealing with it for 2 years. Please help me. I broke up with him today (kinda). I have never really realized my worth before until now, but I understand there really is no changing an abusive guy unless he chooses to change and that I also do not deserve this. I simply told him, “I love you but I can’t keep doing this.” and I explained that I have tried everything but I can’t stay if I am unhappy. He really seems to not be understanding me. I didn’t expect him to understand. Now I am going through extreme heartbreak. I was fine earlier as I felt powerful and finally felt I knew the truth about myself but I just woke up from a nap and reality is starting to kick in. Part of me feels as though he will change when he realizes I am gone for good, for some reason I am holding on to that hope that we still have a future because he will change. There is a reason I always post on this site (and others) and it is because I love him and I am trying to make it work. I read articles, talk to counselors, I just wanted it to work but it is not going to. I just need some advice. Sorry if I sound all over the place because my mind is. I just need some words of advice to keep from feeling the depression that comes with losing him. I just wish he would change for me but that’s not for me to decide.