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January 22, 2015 at 1:36 pm #71794GabrielleParticipant
Hello my Tiny Buddhas! Thanks for giving this a read as this isn’t the easiest topic for me to write about and really appreciate the love and encouragement of this forum, I hope I can bounce a few ideas and learn something from each of you.
Well as the title said about a year ago I had an attempted suicide attempt where I had several deep scars left behind in my leg. It’s pretty obvious and over the summer I had a few questions here and there from strangers, kids and what not and don’t really know HOW to go about addressing it, do I lie? tell the truth? and overall how can I come to accept that I did this to myself? I love who I have become, sought professional help, searched deeply and have greatly improved how I live my life and what makes me happy. Emotionally I am far beyond where I have imagined myself to be at this point and compared to where I was.
All that aside, I’m struggling with the physical acceptance of my scarring and still find it hard to look at. What makes me most nervous is I will be moving to Hawaii soon and it will become an actual reality I need to face daily and I’m not prepared for it. I will be living with others and know the topic will come up. I guess my fears are more with how they will react and what their thoughts of me will be when I’m exposed (literally and figuratively). I’m not crazy and don’t want to put out the vibe that I am nor do I really want to bring attention to it. I still feel a little sheepish and shy still but don’t necessarily want to keep hiding and being scared.
Any advice, love or input is really appreciated, I want to go back to living my life both emotionally, spiritually and physically on the same page.
Thank you!
January 23, 2015 at 11:23 am #71830aerlianParticipantHi gpelle2,
I’ve been thinking about this since i read your post yesterday. I’m so glad you’ve come so far.My reply would be, “I had a bad cut/injury/wound a year ago. I’m so pleased/happy/lucky how well it’s healed up.” Stop there. Then I would change the subject. “Do you know where to find…. What do you think about…That’s a lovely outfit…How about that football team….etc. Have a transition in mind and practice it ahead of time especially if you’re like me and don’t ad lib well. 🙂
People are people…and some people are nosy and will press. Reply, “It was a difficult/unpleasant/unhappy time/event/accident and I really don’t like to talk about it, but thank you for your concern. I appreciate it.” Smile and use another conversational transition.
If they try again, you have my permission to be blunt or rude. “I’m really not comfortable discussing it with you. It’s something i only share with close friends/family/god…” And at that point I would walk away because they’re clearly not someone I would want to be friends with.
You can be vague, but truthful. But honestly it’s nobody’s business but yours.
January 23, 2015 at 12:02 pm #71831AnonymousInactiveI had a real bad injury last year and its healing up – because i think thats the closest truth you can tell them. Smile a bit when you say it. You’re healing and you’re growing – you’re not in that place anymore and it is okay to have been there someday. Think of it from an outsider’s point of view – if you saw someone with those marks, you would simply be curious at best and maybe help if you feel thats possible but really, dont you have enough going on to think about someone’s leg for that long?
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