Hi Jamie,

I hear that you feel lost and helpless. From my point of view, I don’t see you that way.  My thought is that your emotional entanglement with him will go on a long time as long as you:

1. keep sleeping with him

2. keep responding to his texts or calls

3. keep thinking “it” is his fault.

So, my suggestion is that:

1. stop sleeping with him

2. stop responding to his texts or calls

3. stop blaming him – phrasing this differently, stop being mad that he won’t change – put that energy into changing yourself, and walk away from this guy.

These are just my thoughts, you’ll have to figure out what works best for you.

Craig

Hi Jamie,

I think if he texts you again you should definitely just NOT respond. And no, I don’t believe that he will change. You probably won’t get closure on this from him so you have to make the choice to give it to yourself. Give yourself permission to walk away from this. You tried to make it work, what he has asked of you is not reasonable and he’s finally resorting to threats, insults and blocking you. Consider that a blessing that he’s blocked you. It’s time to walk away.

You might find this helpful…it has been for me as I’ve been going through my own break up and soul searching. https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/

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