Hello there, I feel your pain I really do, similar things have happened to me in life. To be honest getting over someone you loved is, In itself one of the hardest things to get over. I was with someone for over 4 years. Best friends heck we grew up together. From the age of 16 to 20. This may sound cliché but time is the best healer. as each day goes on you will become stronger. You must not blame yourself. When you lose someone it is a constant battle. A battle with the world, yourself, friends, family, who expect you to just walk away and move on. I walked for miles daily with my own thoughts. My own mistakes, my own guilt. Eventually my mind changed, things looked up and I found solidarity in someone else, the one thing learnt however at the end of it all. Is that if you can get over this you can get over and achieve anything in life. So take every day as it comes, enjoy your own company there are so many things we need to be grateful for and thinking about them can help a lot also. I hope you find your happiness and although this may not have answered your question only you can answer it. Deep down you know that. All the best. Chris.

Dear Mell,
I’m so, so sorry you are going through this. I’ve been there. When my ex-fiance got someone else pregnant, I also experienced an ongoing, overwhelming torrent of the painful thoughts and feelings that you describe. That was the time when I started my meditation practice because I needed a way to cope with the crazy hurricane of hurt, anger, grief, loneliness, and betrayal that was going on 24-7 within me. That worked for me because in those moments where I was fully present with my breath, or could observe my thoughts without getting entangled in them, I could take back my sanity a few seconds at a time. I also found that any activity that requires your full concentration – for me it was playing music – can also still your mind. It doesn’t sound like much but getting a breather from your own pain can be a lifesaver.

I promise you won’t always feel this way, and that you will experience peace and happiness again. In the meantime, be patient with yourself and trust that you are stronger and more resilient than you know. Healing is happening even if you can’t tell and every day that you make it through is a day where you are a winner.