Irene and Allan,
I am sorry for your pain. Losing a close relationship sucks. I think this is one of the universal experiences.
I like your idea Allan for I find that whenever I am inspired to write/blog/journal I feel sucky (except when I respond to postings like this *grin*). This lets out what is churning inside.
Robert Frost’s quote, “The best way out is always through.” This says to me is not to avoid our pain, sadness and grief. We need to acknowledge it, be with it and eventually we will move through it.
Grieving for a loss, any loss cannot be rushed or made better on a timetable. This is the Eightfold Path of Buddhism (I believe since I am not a student).
I invite you to give yourself grace and love and patience.
Take care for both of you.
Metta,
Mark