Hey so I had sex with someone I’ve had a crush on which was stupid of me. I overestimated myself, I thought I was able to handle it but I was not able. A few days later I bump into him and he asks if I wanted to hang out later and I said yea but he never got back to me and then I see him again and he said that his phone broke and thats why he was not able to text me and such and then a few days later I see him again and it was a brief “hi” and “bye” exchange. I am hoping he is interested in me but I know deep down that he is not.

He didn’t do anything wrong because I am a consenting adult and he did not promise me anything. I just wish I knew better. I am such a sensitive person. I guess you have to experience and learn in order to find out what works best for you. I know I will be seeing more of him since we go to the same college and have mutual friends and I don’t know how to go about it. I do not want to close that door completely since I am still interested in him. But at the same time we have made plans to hang out and he has flaked for almost all of them. I want to set boundaries and respect myself. So I am thinking of all the possible scenarios that can happen after this. Like if he tries making plans with me again I would want to let him know that he can’t keep flaking on me or to at least let me know if he isn’t going to follow through. And if he asks to have sex again I want to let him know that even though it was fun Im not looking for casual sex at the moment.

Any advice on how to heal? I don’t want to have a pity party and dwell but this situation has taken up much of my thoughts and emotions.