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    Hello,

    Reading your reactions and the way you’ve been handling this, I felt like you did very well with all of this. Honestly, both of you handled the situation good.

    It can get complicated after being “rejected”, but not really rejected. It’s inevitable to have questions in your head like this.

    About the question you want advice with: I want to know what kind of person they are. I can easily tell you’re loyal and mature to a point. But, do you know exactly how they are? I mean 3 months is a short time to know about each other. I definitely don’t discourage you to date them or develop further relationship. I just meant, does YOUR instincts and values allow to date that person- you have known for three months. You also mentioned that you’ve had a bit rough start with fights. Fights do strengthen your relationship in a way. Rough starts tend to develop your understanding about each other too. So, how do your brain and heart respond to that question, because you yourself are the most important person here. In my humble opinion, you should say yes, and then decide face-to-face how you two want to take this bond/relationship. Talk about what things you two are ready to comprise, and what you don’t really care about happening. I feel like these two are most important questions for a talk, with my personal experience.

    (I hope it was helpful to you. I apologize for anything that I shouldn’t have written or mentioned.)

    I hope the best for you. Bless you

    Best Regards,

    Javairia

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    Dear leelee:

    I agree with Javaira that indeed three months is a short time to know someone.

    “I have the issue to rush man”- yes, we figured that out in our previous communication. It will be very difficult for you to slow down, but you will get way farther in life (in the context of a love relationship with a man) if you do slow down.

    He asked you to be patient, this does mean to not rush. If you choose to resume a relationship with him, you can make a list of what not to say and what not to do in the next 2 months,   for the purpose of not rushing and not fighting. For example, one of your rules can be to not talk about his ex girlfriend, another rule may be (I am brainstorming here)  to not demand that he tells you that he loves you or that he displays affection for you in public.

    What do you think?

    anita

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