Dear ninjavp:

You described well the fact that your ex bf does not respect your need for space, to be left alone, a valid need that you expressed clearly to him. A need understandable especially following his own action of cheating on you which he knows about.

If you give in to his pressure, to his bullying you, that is putting enough pressure on you, disrespecting your need for space, disrespecting YOU, then you cooperate with this bullying, this disrespect. You join him in his act AGAINST you.

You state that you learned a lot from the relationship with him and you wonder if there is more to learn. If you cooperate with his diserescptful behavior toward you, you UNLEARN the good stuff you learned. When a person dismisses you, hears or reads what you need and then proceeds to ignore it- you let them go. What is the alternative? Why choose the alternative?

I understand you are lonely but you have yourself, don’t lose the most important person in your world- YOU- so to have company with him. If a person takes away from you, keep them away from your life. i would cut all contact with him. Better invest in contact with someone new, anyone new than make the mistake of engaging with a person who hears your need loud and clear and then ignores it, again and again. You have a better chance for a postive connection with a stranger than with him.

anita

Dear ninjavp:

You are welcome. Anytime- post and as long as I am here, I will respond. Best to you!
anita