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  • September 7, 2023 at 12:57 am #421884
    Anonymous
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    Hi Buddah

    I’m sorry to hear about the abortion and the break up. That’s a lot of change you both went through recently with you moving abroad for studying and an abortion. Did you ever talk about these changes as a couple?

    I would imagine that it could be a difficult time for your ex-gf atm. I can see what she’s saying about you not being there for her. You were in a different country. There was no way for you to be there for her unless you flew back to her. She had to deal with a lot essentially alone. It’s not surprising that she wasn’t receptive to you when you chastised her for blowing off steam and partying.

    How are you feeling about everything that has been happening with the abortion and the break up? How are you coping?

    Wishing you all the best! 🙏

     

    September 7, 2023 at 12:19 pm #421898
    Buddah
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    Hi helcat,

    we talked about me going away a lot and we knew it was going to be difficult but we never had any intention of ending things.

    I knew I couldn’t be physically there for her, but I did everything I could to be emotionally there for her. I would send her long messages about how much she means to me and how much I miss her, I would call her for hours each day, I even went down to the post office and sent her a letter telling her how proud I was of her going through all of this (it didn’t actually come by the time she ended things).

    in terms of how I’m feeling about the abortion, I always left the decision down to her, I would tell her how I felt about it saying that it would be very difficult to keep it, but I would always be there and support whatever she chose.

    and finally about the breakup, I have been awful I loved that girl so much, and it’s been so difficult to try and accept that I’ll probably never be with her again, I have cried consistently first two days, and haven’t stopped thinking about her since. The guilt that it could be completely my fault is eating me up.

    Thank you for responding
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    September 7, 2023 at 3:50 pm #421904
    Anonymous
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    Hi Buddah

    If it was just the studying situation there’s a large chance you’d still be together.

    Life happened. She accidentally got pregnant and that messed things up. It sounds like she couldn’t cope with the stress. It’s not your fault. An abortion is a difficult thing to go through. You did the best you could from afar. I bet you were just thinking about her wellbeing talking to her about the partying too. It sounds like you did well communicating with each other until the break up, it’s just an immensely difficult situation.

    I can tell how much you love her. I bet you had some amazing times together. Life is really hard sometimes… I’m so sorry that you’re both going through this. I bet she’s in just as much pain as you. Please remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Do your best to eat and sleep.

    Please feel free to write about anything you’d like to share.

    Wishing you all the best! 🙏

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