Thinking about you, Nichole, knowing you can be okay and hoping that you are.

anita

Dear Nichole:

Options, any one of these or a few may not be good options, but bringing those that come to mind:

1. Take again the anti anxiety/ anti depressants drugs that were prescribed to you by a psychiatrist or see one again for new prescriptions that you can start taking today.

2. Call your younger brother, father, aunt, grandmother, any family member that you think will help you feel better today, and go stay there, in their home for a while.

3. Continue to stay in hotels for ten more nights until you move to the apartment you rented August 1.

4. Have no contact with any of your family members as you decide to make your current struggles your New Beginning, a beginning of a life that makes sense.

Please pick one…?

anita

Dear Nichole:

“How is this my life”- you kept looking for love in all the wrong places, like the song says. This is how it got to be this way, is my answer.

Love is not in Florida and Love is not with your Family.

The New Beginning (option 4) is about accepting the above and looking for love elsewhere. You can’t feel it now, but you will, love is available for you, later, you will see. Have just a bit of hope and faith that there is a better life for you and you will begin that better life today!

anita

Dear Nichole:

You are strong, resilient, that has been proven. You can  make it through this hard time. Think of this, if you will: there are people stuck in 5′ by 10′ cells, in prisons, 19 hours a day, maybe more. Every day, week after week, year after year with no way out. Their sentence is life in prison, no possibility of parole. Nothing they can do to get out.

Now look at where you are right now, think of it as a prison cell for now. Do what those prisoners do, survive it today, and the night to come and the day after, but unlike the life prisoners, you have a way out, what a relief! As a matter of fact, you can do this morning what none of them can do, you can get outside your room when you want to, that kind of freedom is available to you.

Make this day your New Beginning, out of that prison cell, step by step.

anita

Dear Nichole:

“My thoughts beliefs and values are changing as we speak. It is so scary. Will I ever feel like me again?”-

– when beliefs and values change, it is like an earthquake the brain goes through, it is very unsettling and the person going through this feels very uncomfortable, just like you do. If you understand this very concept, you will feel better today.

I am wondering, is it possible that part of you refuses to calm down, figuring that if you feel badly long enough, your family will finally feel badly for you and finally help you (“I keep thinking of going back to family.. for some help! How can I do this all alone.. about to explode!)

anita

Dear Nichole:

“Today feels like I’m trapped”- I want you to think about this, really: it feels like you are trapped but you are not trapped. If you were in a maximum security prison in a 5′ by 10′ prison cell, you would be really trapped. It wouldn’t be a feeling, but reality. Can you imagine a prisoner really trapped being in your situation? So relieved for having an opportunity to be … really free.

In your brain there are different areas, one area is the epicenter of that earthquake we are talking about. Remove your focus from the epicenter and move it to a remove area, the least shook up, far from the epicenter. Operate from that area!

anita