Guide about compassion?

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July 22, 2015 at 5:18 pm #80274

David
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Hello
Yesterday I saw a documentary about Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche and one of his teachings really touched me but at the same time it did confused me, it was like: “compassion is not about -withdraw yourself- from the world but to embrace it with love and kindness”.
Recently I shared my experience with a very harmful uncle and I learned a lot with many of you, who gave me support and advise, but I still can’t understand how can you be capable of embrace people/situations/things with kindness without getting stuck in some way. How can compassion become so strong and pure that no thing can’t pour poison in your heart?.
I really admire Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche and I do wanna learn more about the deep meaning of words and values.

Thank your for sharing your time and wisdom with me.

David

July 23, 2015 at 2:23 am #80291

Annie
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Hello David,

I truly believe that once we validate ourselves and become happy with ourselves we can be more compassionate towards others. The important thing is to really stay tuned to your inner self because only you can determine how much compassion you have to offer without it draining you. Sometimes withdrawing is our only option, but that doesn’t mean it has to be forever. Even withdrawing can have a different meanings for different people. For some it may mean to create emotional space so that you can be there for them without it bringing you down as well. For others it may mean complete withdrawal which includes physical and emotional space. When you can be centered with yourself and approach others out of love, then outside factors will matter very little or not at all.

July 23, 2015 at 5:21 am #80299

Manmohan S Seekree
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Hello David, While writing we can make mistakes. If you understand that “He did not went” is wrong English, I am sure you made a mistake by oversight in using “did” in your writeup. I feel that use of wrong grammar is like an unnecessary speed breaker on a smooth road. (Forgive me if you find some mistakes in my write up too!)

July 23, 2015 at 8:54 am #80304

Anonymous
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Dear David:

You asked: “How can compassion become so strong and pure that no thing can’t pour poison in your heart?”

I wish you told me/ us about the “poison in your heart.”

It is in that looking into that poison, studying it, seeing what is there, in that poison… it is in looking INTO that poison, where compassion is to be found, to be seen, eventually.

anita

July 23, 2015 at 12:54 pm #80322

Saiisha
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Agree with Anita and Annie on how you can practice to be more compassionate by starting to look at right where you are.

As for Dilgo Rinpoche’s words, I can only guess, but here’s how I interpret them:
To develop detachment of emotions so that your compassion and empathy comes from the deepest, purest place possible (your inmost spirit), without being corrupted by outer feelings /emotions /reactions /thoughts.

Let me know if that made any more meaning to you? 🙂

July 23, 2015 at 1:58 pm #80334

David
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Hello everyone, thank you for replying my post 🙂

@Annie, you’re right. I’m always looking outside (people problems, pain or that sort of situation) to “use” compassion, never thought about internalizing the meaning of it to a deep level, trying to comprehend how much can I offer without draining myself as you said. Your post gave me a much more deeper sense of what compassion is. Thank you!

@msseekree, I apologize for my English, it’s pretty bad actually. My mother language is Spanish so it’s kinda difficult to make sentences using the correct words and grammar, please forgive me for that.

@anita , as always you help me to understand better my most inner issues. Since I was a child I lived in a very “toxic” enviroment. My mom tried to commit suicide more than 10 times, I always treated her body wounds, she also used drugs and consumed alcohol. My father left home when I was 2 years old, after that my mom lost everything (home, car, job and mental health). That left me as a 12 years old boy, living alone and working to pay my food. Right now I’m struggling with a very destructive behaviour uncle and my grandma who suffers from Alzheimer. I’m 20 years old now and I thought I forgave my parents and family for leaving me alone but there’s something inside my mind that tells me I can’t do it yet. The price for all that is to live alone and being a very lonely person. There are many more things to tell but I really don’t wanna bother you all with my entire story, those situations above are the most painful ones for me. Thank your for taking time to read it 🙂

@Saiisha , actually you grasp it much more better than me. Thank you for helping me to understand Dilgo Rinpoche’s words in a more simple way. Many many thanks 🙂

Regards for Costa Rica

Dave
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