Dear Michelle:

There is a person you met two years ago once, just one time. Let’s call him or her P. P does things that hurt other people emotionally and physically and he/she has destroyed lives, but these wrongdoings are not clearly illegal and the police therefore will not interfere. P has harmed you and others, you and other victims have communicated on the matter.

You tried to expose P’s wrongdoings to certain agencies but nothing was done to stop P. The results of your efforts to protect the public was that P filed a frivolous lawsuit against you, and he has bullied you in other ways. At one point, being frustrated and tired, wanting to protect people harmed by P, you did something that you regret because since then you fear that P will find out what you did, and will hurt you further.

There was something just a bit wrong with that thing that you did, and it is the first thing of any wrong that you have done in the matter.

“I stress over it to no end… I live with the burden that I must hold it in and carry with me on a constant basis. I simply can not tell anyone about what I have done and it is eating away at me slowly..I ..live in fear of even speaking about it.. I wake up in a panic that the small thing that I did will be discovered”.

My input: fear is not dangerous in itself but living with intense fear day in and day out is dangerous. We are more likely to get into accidents for one, being tired and distracted, our functioning in life is poor and our quality of life is very poor. This kind of fear as you describe needs to end.

I assume you saw an attorney when P filed a lawsuit against you?  Reads to me that you didn’t receive so far competent legal advice regarding how to proceed. The police will not help you, neither did any agency you contacted. Legal help from an attorney you hire, is what I think will help. You have to know what is P’s power. You may be overestimating P’s power. Get quality legal advice and take it from there.

I hope to read more from you.

anita

Dear Michelle:

I see, there is a whole lot to the story. I understand about corruption, quite common and we are all victims of multiple corruptions, political/ financial… but you are personally involved, with this P. The guilt you mentioned, is there any way that because of what you did innocent people in the matter can be harmed?

anita

Hi Michelle,

It reads to me that the impulsive thing you did was merely an attempt to fight back after having to endure harassment and false accusations at the hands of this person. Sometimes when we take this kind of action the person who’s harassing us will stop, but other times it only fuels the fire, makes the person angrier and eager for revenge, especially when he/she may not be mentally well as you indicated may be the case.

My advice is to discuss this with your attorney. In order to competently represent you, your attorney needs to know everything relevant to the case, and the attorney-client privilege ensures that what you disclose to him remains between the two of you only. The truth will set you free!

B