Dear Learning:

Glad you started a new thread.

My comment is on your sentences: “Unconditional love it’s beautiful. If as adults we can tap into that and treat each other with unconditional love how different would our world be”:

There is aggression in our world, it exists everywhere, from parents abusing their children, to a child throwing a temper tantrum in the supermarket, to leaders of nations starting wars to street gangs and so on and so on. We are born that way, like other mammals protecting their territory, fighting for a mate, etc. by displaying aggressive behavior.

When a person is confronted with aggressive behavior, displaying unconditional love for the aggressor may work at times, as to… melt the heart of the aggressor so he feels compassion for his intended victim. But often enough it doesn’t work like that. I know it because children feel unconditional love for their parents, and often enough, the parents act aggressively toward their loving, trusting children.

So, in adulthood, if I express in my behavior unconditional love for a person who is trying to hurt me, I make myself available to b hurt. This is not wise.

In a dry theoretical perspective, one can imagine a world where unconditional love is the norm. Unfortunately, this is not the kind of world we live in. And aggression is something humans are born with. So that has to be dealt with: how to behave when angry, how to make relationships Win-Win, and so on.

anita

We hurt so we can learn to do things differently to change to improve. Everything can’t all be good.

Unconditional love says yes to the reality it is all good even the bad. That is not a paradox

It is through the confrontation of the experience of the problem of opposites, such as the concept good and bad, that creates consciousness and so the possibility of awaking. In such a perspective all that we experience is and originates from Love.

When observed from different planes of experience judgments and labels such as good and bad are temporal and illusion. If one accepts/allows that Life is and of itself is Good then all experiences can be a experience of Unconditional Love.

It is unfortunate that for many to live and stand up for there truths they generate the energy to do so from hate, rage, and ugliness. As you say emotions of anger, fear, even hate serve a purpose. I believe that purpose is to awaken us that something is not as our truths indicate they should be and that we must act however that does not mean that such action be ugly, anger, rage… But this failure to part of the whole and so Love

Dear Learning,

I like the positivity in your post. Unconditionally loving someone to me is forgiving them despite any flaw or trial they have put you through. At one point that was a really hard test for me and it still is. I think it only applies to certain people though. There are some people that you accept a lot more hurt from then others and that isn’t necessarily bad, it depends on the meaning or significance that person has in your life. Conceptually, uconditonal love is beautiful and that perception helps me to forgive and care about others.