So I had this friend, let’s call her Jordan. I had met her through one of my boyfriend’s friend’s girlfriends. The three of us got along really well at first, and before I knew it, I was taking over Jordan’s old roommate’s room at where she was living. We had a lot of fun and I met a lot of new people because of her. I felt overjoyed because this was the first time in my life I had a bigger group of girlfriends. We had a few little tiffs between our group, but nothing that ever made me feel like I shouldn’t stay friends with them. After that, the two of us moved into a new house with our boyfriends. We started having issues with them a couple months in, but just normal roommate issues (Not cleaning dishes, leaving things out, having people over late on a work night, etc.) Last month, she decided to go behind my back and sell some mirrors the landlord had left behind for all of us, and I told her that it wasn’t cool. Obviously it’s just the principle that she went and made money for herself without asking any of us first, like we wouldn’t have wanted to make some extra money too, or maybe even want to keep a mirror myself! She couldn’t handle me speaking my mind (because this was the very first time I did) and told me she was “done arguing” then preceded to tell me I was giving her “unnecessary anxiety” and stopped replying. So, I did what I felt I needed to do, and vented about the situation to our mutual friend who had also been having struggles with her lately. But… she accidentally sent a Snapchat to our groupchat and Jordan heard what she had to say. Yikes, I know. We both apologized to Jordan, because our intent was not to hurt her feelings or make her feel bad that her friends were talking about her, but she didn’t even want to hear us out. I understand the initial reaction of seeing two of your friends talk about you”behind your back”, but we weren’t calling her names or putting her down. We were just saying how she’s made us feel recently and that we feel like we don’t ever get to speak out against her, even if its out of love. Nothing we wouldn’t have said to her face. And if you remember from earlier, I TRIED to talk to her about how I felt, and she brushed me off. After she heard and saw the snapchat, she immediately texted the two of us and called us fake, and said she needed space. We understood that could be beneficial and agreed. However, I lived with her at this point still. I would be in the kitchen and she would come in and not even LOOK at me, not only that neither did her BOYFRIEND. Also, no exaggeration, EVERY night after this happened, they invited people over to drink and hang out. Even on weekdays. So after a couple weeks of not getting any sleep and being ignored by 2 of my 3 roommates, my boyfriend and I told them we wanted to move out. I mean what was the point of living with people who don’t even have the respect to tell you before having a bunch of people over in the space YOU ALSO live in?? So we packed up and moved. Since that happened, she deleted a group instagram page my friends had been using to sell clothes, RIGHT in the middle of one of their sales, without consulting anyone first. She’s invited people over that she used to speak badly about and have had fallings out with. She posted a picture with me in it and didn’t tag me. Just very petty petty stuff. I have no interest in mending things with her because she has shown me her true colors very quickly since this happened. However, I know I’m gonna be around her at some point because we share some of the same friends, and I don’t know how to act. The day after this happened, the girl who accidentally sent the snapchat and I, were invited to a girls night that Jordan was going to be at and it was super awkward. Jordan kept deliberately telling all the girls, except us, to come take a picture or take a shot. Obviously trying to alienate us and make us feel left out. The thing is, I know these other girls don’t care to be involved with that and love us regardless of our falling out. How do I show up and own whats happened and not allow myself to fall back when she’s around?