Just talk to him with patient mind don’t go to argue. Argue does not help anyone. If you know he is mad leave him alone dont try to show your expressions at the same tiime. But there is something in reality some guys are very good just to be friends but not for relationship. May be you have that sort.

In addition to Kinny’s heartfelt and pertinent insight, consider that because you’ve both been friends for so long, that its very possible that your dreams are coming true. This can be exciting and scary. On one hand, you know each other well. On the other, you may be feeling extra pressure to make it work. This can lead to a lot of outbursts, and “as a friend, you never did such and such”. Just remember that as a friend, not as much was at stake, and therefore there was less fear.

Consider making an alliance with him against the anger that comes up between you two. “My love, when I get scared, for some reason I become angry and say words that come from fire. I don’t want that to happen in our intimacy, and they’re not actually true. They seem true at the time, but as the anger fades, I see that they were just my heart clouded by anger. Can we work together to rid our connection of those moments? I don’t like them either.” Then, in the moments that are not flaring… do your best to make amends for what has been said, and look together for what it was that sparked the fire.

Many people feel that they have to heal these things before they are lovable. On the contrary, it is through love that we find healing. For instance, if you two love each other potently, then the fights, outbursts and angry words are an anomoly that you can examine together and put to rest.

With warmth,
Matt