Hi there.

I know some people roll their eyes at the idea of “soul mates”, and some people believe in it more than their own name. I can say I fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. I have never really given it much thought and didn’t have a defined opinion. However, a strange string of events have occurred in my life recently. You see, for the past couple of months, I have been asking the universe to give me an opportunity to practice commitment, responsibility, compassion, and surrender. The universe listened and presented me with opportunities for love. After going on a few dates, interacting with some old connections, etc. I felt confused. None of the people I met gave me the spark I desired to feel, and I was starting to believe the universe was actually just trying to show me how picky I am and that I need to get over myself and settle for one of these lovely people already!

But, before I decided to settle on a mediocre relationship, the spark arrived. I saw an ad online for a car somebody was selling, a car that I have always wanted. It was in my budget, the seller lived nearby, it all seemed perfect. I decided to meet up with the seller. It turns out I had known this man when I was in grade school, and I had a little crush on him in my adolescence. The spark was still there, and I’ve felt something with him that I’ve never felt before. Instead of just selling the car, we talked for hours and connected as if we were old friends from another lifetime. I’m not sure if I want to use the term “soul mate”, but for your understanding, the connection almost felt supernatural. Instead of selling the car that day, it was dragged out into 3 more events and after probably 6+hours of talking about life (in total), I bought the car.

I do not have social media but one of my friends (from the same elementary school all those years ago) is friends with this person on facebook. After asking her to find out if he has a girlfriend, she, unfortunately, found out that he is indeed dating someone else. While I should have known that even though we talked so in depth, those meetings were not “dates” and I should not have gotten excited. And I know that the human mind is literally wired to fall for people we can’t have. But that’s not the case. I’m not angry he has a girlfriend, I’m not jealous. I’m just a little confused.

I fully believe that everything that happens in life is a chance to learn something. But I’m not sure what I’m supposed to learn from meeting a “soul mate” at an inconvenient time? What am I supposed to learn from deeply connecting to someone who isn’t emotionally available? I would just like some advice on what to do now. I’m not sure if I should leave him alone since he is unavailable, to try to stay connected as friends, etc.

Sorry this post is so long. And I thank you in advance!!