Hello, Becca,
I just practice being compassionate and kind toward myself—I practice being discerning, simply seeing something as it truly is, instead of being judgmental, seeing something through inward dislike. I wrote a post about my own discoveries about self-compassion a while ago. You are welcome to read it here http://wp.me/p2ywf8-9i if you like. Basically, I practice seeing what really is, letting go of harsh judgement, and treating myself with compassion, kindness and love, in much the same ways I practice treating others. Oh, and here is another post I wrote about letting go of regrets http://wp.me/p2ywf8-7J.
And Jo is so wise. You are not alone. Self-compassion is a universal human practice.
May you be compassionate, kind, and forgiving toward yourself.
Midge