Terri-

I understand the struggle and know you are not alone. I myself am working on changing the way I talk to myself. I have learned that, even tho I am a “happy” person and I am grateful for the things I have, I never feel good enough. For the longest time I blamed that on my circumstances or money or people in my life. I finally realized that most of it was in my head (to a certain extent) I realized that I was holding my self to a standard of perfection that didn’t exist. For most of my life I felt I needed to be a certain way to please others, when in fact they didn’t care if I was perfect, they just wanted me to be happy. I started counseling about 4 months ago and through her help I have realized I have a terribly negative self narrative. You may be similar to me. When you start to not feel good enough, change the script. Remember the pride you feel for being 21 and able to provide a home for yourself, remember what you have come from and what you are today. You are an incredible human and when you start allowing yourself to believe it, you won’t care about “not being good enough” because you will just be you.

Wishing you the best of luck, you are worth it <3

-kori

Terri, have you tried doing EFT on the shame that you felt as a child? That’s a pretty effective way of dissolving what’s in the dark recesses of the mind.