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May 7, 2016 at 9:09 am #103868
AnonymousGuestDear enlightenedmisi70:
I read your post attentively and here is my input, my recommendation to you:
If I was you, at this point, I would apply the concept of a Beginner’s Mind. By it, I mean: I would look at that structure, that detailed tall, complicated building that represents my spirituality, and reconsider each of its blocks. Then rebuild your belief system, one block at a time, from the beginning. It will be a different building, one that will work for you way, way better than the old one.
These are some of the blocks in your current spirituality (core beliefs) building as I understand them (correct me where I am wrong):
1. Your grandmother is your guardian angel.
2. There are no coincidences in life: everything has a reason and a purpose.
3. The “Universe” (including guardian angel, I suppose) is sending you messages about what you should do for your well being. When you are not experiencing well being, it is because you didn’t notice or didn’t listen to those messages.
4. Some emotions are “negative energy” that need to be rid of.What do you think?
anita
May 7, 2016 at 10:06 am #103871
MisiParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you so much and let’s just say, you nearly hit it all on the head.
1. My grandmother was/is my guardian angel, yes, but things have happened in the past nine months that I am confused about. I know she sent me messages in the past…one in particular directly through my (then 4 year old) daughter. I wasn’t as opened as I am now, however. My feeling of having my grandmother with me have somewhat faded (I think) because it was actually my dad who was with my in my dream the night before my world fell apart in August. I guess I’ve just come to see that our spirit guides are always with us, but may have to take a different “person” as you will, in effort to get our attention?
2. Yes, I do believe everything has a reason and purpose. I just remain confused as to whether or not they are created and controlled by our own higher self or if we truly have no choice in the matter of what happens to us. Our destiny is already planned out, period. I can look back and truly see times in which I was living situations that I at one time had desired or simply thought of. So, do we truly have a say in this life we live? If so, why am I struggling with certain aspects of mine?
3. I do believe in signs, synchronicity and messages. I have seen/felt quite a few that I know with all of my heart that they were sent to me for a purpose. However, other times, such as when I’m meditating, I feel things out of the blue and become confused wondering if there is a reason behind them or if my lower vibration, my negative level is taking advantage of my open mind. As I said, I just don’t think I have ever truly felt my own intuition. How do I know if I am feeling that or just my typical negative emotion…one that I have lived with for 45 years.
4. I have learned an absolutely great deal on my negative emotions. that is, in the sense of those on the surface, per se. The sick feelings of heartbreak, worry about finances, doubt about meeting people, etc. I have even lessened the dark effect of depression. It is truly a wonderful feeling, but now and again, I suddenly feel that negativity come from out of nowhere. The same negative feelings I’ve worked to eliminate. Even my last love. Why suddenly I “feel” him and miss him so much…just absolutely out of nowhere. Then, after a few tears, I’m immediately sent into the feelings of knowing that I am doing great and everything is going to be ok.
Does any of this make sense? Could you help me to understand a bit more about the “building” theory you mentioned?
May 7, 2016 at 10:35 am #103875AnonymousGuestDear enlightenedmisi70:
What I listed and what you elaborated on further in your last post are your very strong beliefs. These are what you believe to be true, real. As you know, different people believe to be true different things. When you have two people who believe very differently about the same reality, one of them is wrong. For example, one person believes there is no such thing as coincidences. Another person believes a whole lot of what happens is random and coincidences. One of the two is right, one is wrong, do you agree?
You see, you believe in those things I listed, 1-4. I believe all those four things are not true to reality. I can tell by the words you used how strongly you believe in these things.
Where do I go from here (I ask myself). I don’t have a personal motivation for you to change your beliefs. I know it is distressing to change one’s strong beliefs. I know because I evaluated and changed a few of my own. It is you to decide if you want to evaluate those, and if you do, you will feel distress over the prospect. But then, if you do evaluate and change those beliefs that are not true to reality, you will benefit, over time.
I will attend to one of your beliefs, that there are signs, messages sent to you by a guardian angel and spirit guides- you believe in those spirits sending you messages but you are confused. How can it be? Aren’t those messages supposed to make things clear to you? If they are not clear, shouldn’t the message sender, caring about your well being, simplify those messages so that you understand and become clear?
I will attend to another one, that some emotions are negative energy that need to be eliminated. I believe that all emotions, no matter how distressing, have valid messages behind them and that if you pay attention to those messages, and incorporate those to the way you live, then your distress will diminish, over time, and you will live more effectively.
I suppose the two points are linked: I believe the messages you are seeking are in the “negative energy” you are trying to eliminate, and not in supernatural spirit guides.
If you’d like, let’s keep communicating. But I want to be clear: I have no personal motivation in you changing your beliefs. I will not … fight you over these. My input to you is that if a system of beliefs (the building theory, as you referred to it) works for you long term (beyond temporary feeling-good in between long, long stretches of trouble and confusion), then keep them. If they are not working for you, well, maybe you want to evaluate them. For your own well being.
anita
May 8, 2016 at 6:42 am #103906AnonymousGuestDear enlightenedmisi70:
I am writing you again because I feel that I missed an opportunity here. Plus, i am hoping someone else will respond to your thread. I do because you indicated that you are never one to ask for advice, for help and you did here and you did not receive help. So, I would like to try again.
I would like to try again. This time, if you answer this very post, I will not bring up the differences in our beliefs other than to clarify the following: I believe the emotion of anger is positive and useful when we are living in an abusive or unjust situation and there is something we can do to change it, to remove abuse from our lives or otherwise to make things just.
Waiting for your reply. Again, I will try to be as helpful as I can while accepting your beliefs as they are.
anita
May 8, 2016 at 7:55 am #103918MisiParticipantGood Morning, Anita!
If you want the truth…you actually helped me more than you know!! Honest! It was in reading your last reply that it hit me out of nowhere. You see, one thing I have always said…even before my true spiritual journey began….was that “If YOU believe it…then surely it is real.” However, in light of all that has happened in the past 9 months, I had lost that ideal within my own self. I didn’t know what to believe…what ritual to follow…what spirit or God or entity to call upon to make things right in my life. When I wrote my “call for help,” so to speak…I think on the conscious level I was looking for someone to tell me…”THIS is the right way.” I was seeking a specific direction. Your reply reminded me that we all have our own beliefs but not one belief is better or stronger than another. It all comes from within our own soul. I still find myself confused at times in seeking clarity from the things (visions, sensations, signs) that happen to me, but I do know that regardless of what anyone else says…I am the one who has to truly “feel” in order to believe and trust. Considering my current circumstances in that I live quite a distance from my family and struggling financially while continuing to find work, spending so much time in my rented room alone tends to enhance the feelings of confusion, sadness, and a myriad of other emotions. These are all things I think I did know deep down inside, but reading your words is what I really needed to get them to surface.
As far as negative emotion…I completely agree in that it can, indeed, be positive. In fact, I truly believe that in order to experience complete peace with anything in our lives, negativity is a must. You can’t have good without evil, right?! I just know that there is a difference between feeling the emotion of the negative and letting it take control. We must all recognize that emotions are natural and acknowledging any anger, hate, sadness, etc allows us to open up to bringing more good into our lives provided we have the ability to let it pass and not allow our souls to be overcome with the bitterness that negativity can create.
In reality, though…I didn’t exactly get the impression that your “belief” was far different than mine. I saw it more in that you, too, believe in a strong power within us; our higher self, as you will. I just see that perhaps the “tools” in which you utilize are simply different. Where I see signs on the physical realm, you find answers in other ways?
You may have been the only reply in this thread, however it was that in which helped more than I could have imagined! For that…I thank you!!:D
Namaste’
MisiMay 8, 2016 at 8:32 am #103922AnonymousGuestDear Misi:
You are very welcome and thank you for your grace as expressed in your post above.
Regarding your question about our beliefs not being that different, well for one, we do share the belief, as I learned in your last post, that anger can be a positive, helpful feeling. I am glad about that. We can talk about our shared beliefs more later, is you’d like.
I hope you are interested in further corresponding about the distress you expressed in your original post. You wrote there: ” I asked over and over, would scream and beg for answers as to why I can’t seem to get ahead? Why do I continue to encounter these misfortunes? What am I doing wrong? I am truly a loving caring person who never judges, has never hurt a soul. Why?”
I would like to explore these questions with you. Since you asked these questions of yourself, did you come up with possible answers that you didn’t mention in your original post?
anita
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