Dear Tessa:

Congratulations for what you wrote here: “I’ve had to mostly separate myself from the family I used to be very close to because they were bringing me down so much.”

Regarding “patches of aloneness”- they are certainly better than togetherness with people who bring you down, are they not? I deal with such by enduring whatever feelings are in that alones. If I am sad, I feel sad and know I can endure it, definitely survive it. I get busy, at times, like you have.

And I remind myself how superior these patches of aloneness are to distressing togetherness with people. I remind myself how important it is to be selective as to who you get together with and I look forward to such Win-Win, healthy get-togethers.

anita