Katie,
I am so sorry you had to go through this.
Although you feel he got off easily, you need not worry about him anymore. Tell him to eff off and leave you alone. Whether he got left off the hook is not up to you, it’s up to him and his karma. I would move forward with life. It’s not always going to be fair, especially for us women, but just know that the only thing you have control over is yourself and how you allow others to treat you. Pay him no mind, for he has shown he is obviously not deserving of it. Keep your head up. You’ve been so strong and you’ve gone through so much. Be kind and gentle with yourself, by focusing on your own needs and not worried about others is such a great investment you can make on yourself. Also, if he is still cheating on his gf, he’ll eventually get caught… just be glad you aren’t his gf.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 11 months ago by MayraLuna.

Dear Katie,
You have been through a lot, but your anger is not at this jerk of a guy, and your sympathy is not for his girlfriend. Both are at and for you. You made some very bad choices for yourself. You had unprotected sex, chose a sexual partner that did not care about you (I’m not sure why you expected someone that you had casual sex with to support you during pregnancy), ended a long term relationship, and most importantly cheated on your boyfriend. None of this “happened” to you. These were the choices that you made. Focus on why you made these decisions, how not to make poor ones again, and take responsibility for them by not making this about the jerk. Set new boundaries for yourself and others and move on. You don’t need to forgive him, just forgive yourself.